I’m going to give you a few golden nuggets (secrets) to success… It’s not found in your comfort zone and it’s definitely not found in familiar faces. You must NOT be afraid to take risks, you must be able to accept constructive criticism, and you must learn from your mistakes. Stop thinking that your success rides on the backs of people you know or grew up with, because your success is up to you, and success varies from one person to another. Success is not being rich.

There are plenty of rich people who are failing at life. Success is living a FULL life. Success is accomplishing any of the goals you’ve set for yourself, small and large. Celebrate every goal you accomplish and stop waiting to be happy until you hit the big one! When you hit the big goal, it’s definitely something to celebrate, but if you have a void in your heart, the void will continue to be there when you hit the pinnacle of your success. This is because the world’s idea of success won’t fill that void.

No outside thing can fix those inner issues. So, get right with God and learn to love and be at peace with yourself first, no matter how the world views you. The only One you need to worry about knowing you is, God. Stop working so hard to get people’s recognition, because those people only love the idea of you, and not the real you. The people who love and support you for real, knows the real you and you don’t have to step out of character, or do something dramatic to earn their love, because it’s unconditional. Last but not least, don’t be afraid to get to know new people.

A sad truth is that, most people who’ve known you a long time WON’T support you, for different reasons. You may think they owe you loyalty, but they don’t. It is what it is, focus on those who are loyal to you right now, and aren’t waiting on your “come up” to ride the wave. Most of your blessings will come from strangers. That’s just how God works. The lack of love or support from people you know, can’t stop what God is doing through you.

He put you here for a purpose, and your focus is key to fulfilling it. So, hang in there. Don’t get caught up in what’s going on in other people’s lane, stay in yours! Keep a humble spirit and a pure heart. Keep God first.

Branch out and take risks. Celebrate small success as well as the big. Find love and peace within yourself, and my friend, you’re going to be all right! Love you! ❤️ God bless. 

Get out of your feelings and get to work.

Your focus is a major key in life. Your focus can either make you or break you. It can either open doors or close doors. It can create a stepping stool or it will be a stumbling block. It’s all about your perception. 

It takes wisdom to see clearly, because not everything you see with your eyes is the truth. Sometimes you must look at things from a spiritual point of view. You can’t be in your feelings about who did this, or who didn’t do that, or how you’re at a disadvantage, or how life isn’t fair… All of these things may be true, but what are you going to do about it? Are you going to let the odds stacked against you, stop you from doing what you were created to do?

Stop making excuses as to why you can’t do something. Stop blaming other people for your shortcomings, failures, or disappointments. Never allow people or a situation to dictate how far you can go in life. The greatest achievers in life believed they could, and so, they became. Not everything will go your way all the time, but you can’t get in your feelings about it. 

Sulking in your feelings is a waste of time. Learn the lesson and grow. You must learn how to fail, before you can win, and what I mean by that is, you must learn how to handle failures successfully. Don’t allow a fail to make you a loser, especially a sore loser. It doesn’t matter what the loss is. 

Take that experience as a learning opportunity and win! 

One way that God has shown His love for us, is by giving us the gift of free will. While it may sometimes feel like a blessing and a curse, we cannot deny the fact that free will is an act of love. It is a blessing to have a choice of what we want to do; however, God has told us beforehand that there are blessings and curses that comes as a direct result of our choices. Some people will argue, if it’s free will, why do we get punished for making choices outside the will of God? A person with human logic cannot understand this, but a person with understanding of who God is, can. 

The Word of God says, in Galatians 6:8, “Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit.” Sin cannot produce eternal life, but the blood of Jesus can! All we have to do is go to God and accept His forgiveness that comes through Jesus Christ. Hebrews 9:22 (ESV), “Indeed, under the law almost everything is purified with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins.”

In the garden of Eden God told Adam and Eve that disobedience would bring death. He could have made us be obedient and submissive to Him, but that’s not love, and God is the definition of love. Love doesn’t make you do the right thing, it inspires you to do the right thing. Love doesn’t mislead you, but love tells you the truth, no matter how bad it hurts. The Bible tells us in James 1:14-15, “Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.” 

So, we must make wise choices in life. Choices that leads to life, health, love, prosperity and the favor of God. We must exude the fruits of the Holy Spirit. These things will bring favorable results. Will it always be easy? Of course not! But this is where God’s grace comes in. 

If we go to God and ask for His help, He will help us! God knows what we’re capable of doing by ourselves and what we cannot. The thing is, sometimes we are capable of making the right decisions in life, but we don’t. Instead, we serve our feelings, or other people or even an image that we try to keep up. When we do this, we must hold ourselves accountable for the outcome. Blessings comes inside the will of God and curses comes as a result of sin. Sin feels good now, but the price never feels good, later. You actually get cheated! Being obedient to God doesn’t always feel good upfront, but the payoff is worth it in the end, so, we have to make a choice. God said, in Deuteronomy 11:26-28, “Look, today I am giving you the choice between a blessing and a curse! You will be blessed if you obey the commands of the LORD your God that I am giving you today. But you will be cursed if you reject the commands of the LORD your God and turn away from him and worship gods you have not known before.” 

Our choices determines our course. What you do today will determine your tomorrow. If you want success tomorrow, you must start today. This great life you’ve envisioned for yourself won’t just fall in your lap, you must work for it. If you want your life to get better, begin to make better choices in life, in your health, in your thoughts, in your relationships and in your battles. Your faith determines your actions!

There’s a saying, “Choose your battles wisely.” Not everything that’s easy is right, and not everything that’s difficult is not of God. Sometimes, God is in the midst of the difficulties, because He’s trying to prune you. He wants us to make the right decisions so that we can be blessed and rise to new levels. He wants us to trust Him more than we trust our feelings. 

So, as you go about your day, make choices that you can live with later. Don’t make a decision that will hurt you down the road. Make decisions that will heal you, today! Make decisions that will bring success, in whatever way that definition means to you. Make decisions in which the end results will be love, joy, peace and eternal life, in Jesus name. ❤️

It’s all about your mindset and your focus. Negativity and complaining will keep you stuck and depressed. Learn to tune out the distractions. Don’t settle for what’s always been because it’s always been that way! Be a visionary! God is able to help you, but look to Him. The Word tells us, We can do all things through Christ. (See Philippians 4:13)

Think positive and work towards a positive change and you will get positive results. It’s all about faith and action. You must be willing to do something you or anyone else in your family/circle has ever done, if you want a different result in life. Be the first in your family to break a generational curse. Be the first in your circle to become a philanthropist. Set the tone. Whatever you desire in life, begins with you. “God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” – 2 Timothy 1:7

So, what are you going to do. We’re already equipped with everything we need for a godly life, that’s God’s Word. (See 2 Peter 1:3) You want change, it begins with you. Don’t sit on the sidelines and watch other people fulfill their destiny. Get in the field. Don’t be afraid of falling or getting dirty. God has your back. Just remember to keep Him at the forefront of everything you do, and you will succeed.

Proverbs 16:3 (CEV)
Share your plans with the Lord, and you will succeed.

Shift your focus.

Some of us have been in toxic situations so long that we think it’s normal. We learn to cope with it because we believe things won’t get better for us. We pray, we cry, we fight, we quote scripture, we even walk away sometimes, but when things get rough we go right back. We go right back to that toxicity, because it’s a part of us! No matter how much you pray, cry and quote scripture, that unhealthy attachment to whatever it is, WILL NOT go away until you release it mentally.

If you don’t believe me, read Exodus. The children of Israel had been crying out for God to deliver them out of slavery. When He did, their physical address may have changed, but mentally they were still slaves. When they began to go through some things, they wanted to go back to that trauma! Why? Because it was comfortable, meaning that they knew what to expect.

We do the same things in relationships or other areas of our lives. We are afraid to start over with a new person because of the risk of going through what we went through with an ex, so what do we do? We go back or stay with that toxic person because we know them and in our minds it’s easy to deal with something or someone when you know what you’re getting, than it is to start something and be unsure of what you’re getting yourself into.
Want to know the thing that’s holding you back? Fear… When it boils down to it, fear is the root of your problem. You fear uncertainty. You fear being alone. You fear being hurt. You fear rejection. You fear that you can’t do better. You have to release fear, in order to gain your freedom and power.

We must learn to be uncomfortable sometimes. We can’t be afraid of being hurt. We can’t be afraid of falling. Just because you fall, doesn’t mean you have failed. The Bible says, “Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that’s the end of them.” – Proverbs 24:6 (CEV)

Keep getting up. It’s like a baby learning to walk. They stumble and fall. They cry and reach for their parents to help them, but you want to know what else they do, they focus. If a baby can focus on doing what it takes to get from point A to point B, guess what? So can you! It’s time to stop crawling in sin, in dead end relationships, in dead end jobs, in unhealthy connections, in toxic environments, in fear and struggle; and it’s time to walk in the freedom and power of the Holy Spirit! It’s time to walk in purpose! It’s time to walk in love and not our feelings! It’s time to truly walk by faith and not by sight. Shift your focus back to what truly matters, because the distractions doesn’t matter. They are designed to keep you from reaching your destiny, but God!

God is right here, like a parent who’s teaching their baby to walk. He is encouraging you, smiling down on you, loving you and is there to catch you when you fall. Don’t be afraid to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back. You were created for so much more! Press towards the mark! Stand up and walk. Focus on God and let faith be your guide. Tell fear, “You no longer have a room here, in Jesus name.” Amen. 🙏🏾

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Be prepared for what you ask for because you just might get it and have no clue what to do with it. You want to be a person who’s responsible with the blessings God has given you. We don’t want to get what we’re praying for only to mismanage our blessings. Have you ever been in a situation like that? Well, I have…

In the past, I had a job that I was excellent at. I don’t mean to brag, but I was. My past employer will vouch for me. I went to school for the job, took all kinds of extra classes, got all kinds of training and certifications and one day, I decided that I didn’t want to do that job anymore. It had began to take a toll on my health so I don’t regret resigning however, the job that I took to replace my old job seemed more ideal and less stressful but, turns out because I lacked the training it took to be my best at the new job, it became more overwhelming than my last job and so I quit. My health went from bad to worse, due to stress alone.

I wasn’t prepared for the job. It was a decent job. Was it better than my last job? Heck no. They were about the same, except the first job payed more. The second job only “appeared” to be better when I didn’t have it. I didn’t have to do all the things that the first job required, but I still had to put in the same amount of work.

My point is, be prepared for what you pray for. Just because something appears to be “better” doesn’t mean it’s easy. You will have to put in the same amount of work to maintain it, just in a different way. Sometimes, we bite off more than we can chew because we don’t realize what our wants requires. I believe this is why God does not give us everything we want. He gives us some things, but like a good parent, he knows how much we can handle. Just because something or someone seems good to you, doesn’t mean it or they are good for you. Just because someone/something seems better for you, doesn’t mean you’ll be better off. You must count the cost. If you can’t pay the price, don’t attempt the sacrifice. If you do, it could destroy you. Sometimes the things or person we desire in life isn’t what we need to be happy, those things only appear that way on the surface. True happiness is when you feel good in your heart and are at peace in your mind and spirit about what you’re doing to keep that person around or maintain those things in your life.

You can accomplish anything you want to, you just have to believe it so much that you actually start doing it! Listen, believing is only half the battle, to becoming your best self, you must take action as well.
In order to change your position, you must change yourself, and in order to change yourself, you must first transform your mind. You can’t think the same way you did ten, twenty years ago, if you’re a person who’s constantly evolving spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally. If you’re a person who has million dollar dreams, but a nickel and dime mindset, then that million dollar dream will be just that, a dream. Don’t be a person with a dream and no initiative. Personal success takes both. The only way to accomplish our personal goals is to work towards them. Come on! You can do it!
The road to success is difficult sometimes. There will be many sacrifices, hard work and dedication that will come into play. You may lose some people, but better people will come along and the sacrifices, hard work and dedication will pay off. Don’t be so anxious to accomplish things so quickly, remember, Ecclesiastes 9:11, “The race is not to the swift, Nor the battle to the strong, Nor bread to the wise, Nor riches to men of understanding, Nor favor to men of skill; But time and chance happen to them all.” This mean that your time to shine or accomplish the dreams God placed in your heart will come according to God’s timing and not our own. We will all have our set backs and life will happen to us, but we must endure it all if we want to come out on the other side of the things we go through. God knows how to make all things come together! Past experiences and current situations aren’t enough to stop God’s future plans for your life, so don’t lose hope. I know that sometimes it may feel as though every time you take two steps forward, you get knocked three steps back, but remember, your personal success is measured by your progress and not the progression of others. Don’t worry about what other people have going on, because that’s how you lose focus, and that’s how you lose hope, and these things will cause you to forget how incredibly blessed you are. Comparison is a joy thief. Focus on you!

Are your actions matching your desires?
It’s not enough to want something, if you don’t work towards it. “Faith without works is dead (James 2:17).” Read that again. Whether your desire is to become successful in your career field, get fit, start your own business, find true love, or whatever the desires of your heart may be, you simply cannot accomplish any of these things, if you don’t start. Don’t be a person who says one thing, but means the opposite in their heart. The Bible says, in Proverbs 23:7, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: Eat and drink, saith he to thee; but his heart is not with thee.” Don’t say with your mouth, “I’m going to do this or that, but in your heart you don’t have the will to begin or you refuse to let go of something that’s keeping you from achieving that goal. God wants to give us the desires of our heart, but a lot of times we’re torn. We’re on the fence about what we truly want, therefore, we’re not ready to receive what we pray for. If we receive what we’re not ready for, we will mismanage it. That’s why we are tested with what we have or where we currently are in life, before God elevates us or gives us those desires in our hearts. Luke 16:10, “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much.” I personally know women who desire a husband, but they can’t get over their ex. I know men who say with their mouths that they want a wife, but they also still have that player’s mentality… I know people who want to be rich, but they’re constantly living above their means or they refuse to get up off their behinds! I personally, want a six pack or at least flat abs… I workout but, I refuse to let go of carbs… or at least limit them to a low level… 🤷🏾‍♀️ These are all heart matters. The heart wants what it wants, (in my case my stomach, lol) no matter what we say with our mouths, and nine times out of ten if we don’t start doing what we are “naming and claiming” then we will continue to serve our own hearts aka ourselves, until we allow the Holy Spirit to govern our lives completely. We have no problem giving God our soul, but what about our bodies, our finances, our comfort zones? God wants all of us. He doesn’t want us to “follow our heart” He wants us to follow Him! Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things
    and beyond cure.
    Who can understand it?”
You see, there are some things we have no problem giving to God, and well… some things we don’t want Him to touch, because we’ll be uncomfortable and we know that it will require more faith, more self discipline, and more sacrifice on our parts, and we’re unsure of exactly what that might require. We’re afraid of the unknown. We know God’s will for us is good, but we want to make sure that we can tolerate our personal cross before we bear it. This walk with Christ doesn’t work like that. We can’t try out our cross before we decide to bear it. That means we’re depending on our own strength. We supposed to pick that cross up and depend on the strength of God to sustain us! The question is. Do we really want His strength? Because it’s there! Or, do we want to keep doing things our way or what’s comfortable? In my personal life, I know that I can have a flat stomach if I get serious and use the strength of Christ, but do I really want to let the carbs go??? Carbs brings me comfort, but they also bring me back fat and a muffin top! 🥴😅 Lord knows I didn’t intend to make this about food, but what are the carbs in your life? No, not food. What are the things that brings you comfort, but are also holding you back from reaching your goals in life, or keeping you from operating at the level in which you should be? We have to get our hearts right, first. It’s not enough to say, “I can do all things through Christ,” If we don’t DO IT! What are some things that God has put in your heart? Now think about some things you may have in your heart that’s not of God, that could be keeping you from God’s best for your life. We have to come out of that mindset of wanting what feels, looks or tastes good at the moment, and think about what will benefit us in the long run. God won’t share the room in our hearts. So, if we have a stronger desire to do things our way, He will allow us. He gave us, free will. However, if we want the desires He has put in our hearts, then we must be fearless, and go at those things in His strength. We must die to ourselves. Matthew 16:25, “For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Those dreams, goals, visions and desires God has placed in your heart, will require you to be uncomfortable for a season, but the end result will be well worth it! I’m ready, Lord. I want your best for me. Spiritually, physically, emotionally, financially and in every aspect of my life! Come on y’all! We can do this! If we do it in God’s strength! 💪🏾

Understand this, beloved. God didn’t create you to chase those who reject you. In Matthew 7:6, Jesus said, “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.” You know what this equates to? Know your worth! It doesn’t have anything to do with pride or ego, but everything to do with knowing your time is valuable, knowing who you are and what you deserve. If you’re continuously trying to prove your worth to people who just doesn’t see it, you’re setting yourself up for misery and heartbreak. This not only apply to love and relationships but life in general. You want to know what to do when people reject you? Respect the rejection. Don’t try to convince them to change their mind. Look to God. He’s redirecting you. Where one door closes, somewhere else another one opens. That rejection doesn’t mean give up. That rejection means, keep going. Understand, that the hand of God is leading you. There may be distractions along the way, there may be people you want to take with you, and you may even see what appears to be a better way, but it’s all an illusion. Stay focused. Jesus is the way, the truth and the life (John 14:6). As followers of Christ, it’s important to know which battles to fight. If it’s more draining than productive, then put it in God’s hands and be still. Not everything we want is God’s will, but rest assured that His will for us is good. Many of the desires we have, He puts them there, but we must trust His guidance and not our feelings. Our feelings will tell us, we need to force people to see how valuable we are, but this simply isn’t true. The right people who are meant to be in your life will see it and the ones who aren’t supposed to be in your life, won’t. A hard truth is, oftentimes, we get tied up with the wrong people or situations that we weren’t supposed to be with or in, in the first place. Then when things don’t go as we planned, we try to force it. God doesn’t want you to worry yourself to death or become anxious about something that’s out of your control. You don’t have to force things to happen, God will make it happen, maybe not with that person, maybe not in that place, maybe not with that thing, but he has an unlimited amount of other options for getting you what you need. He may not come through your way, but He will come through His way. We must keep an open mind, because God is not limited to human capabilities. So, don’t be discouraged when a door is slammed in your face. Try another door, and another one, and another one, until you find YOUR DOOR. You’re facing those closed doors so that you learn to persevere. You’re also facing them to gain wisdom, knowledge and understanding. The rejection is training you how to walk by faith and not by sight. Hey, I know rejection doesn’t feel good, but it’s also building you. Growth doesn’t always feel good, because it moves us out of our comfort zone. If you’re facing any type of rejection, from a loved one, on the job, at church, dating, or wherever it may be, just keep going. Do not be discouraged. Whatever you’re seeking to accomplish, may not be easy, but with faith in God, all things are possible. Keep going until you get to, what God has for you. How to get past rejection? Keep on walking. A chapter may end, but that doesn’t mean your story is over. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, and when you can’t see the way, remember that our God is a way maker. In Jesus name. Matthew 7:7, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”

Many of the barriers in our lives are created by our own way of thinking. Admit it. We focus too much on the negative what if’s instead of the positives. All too often the uncertainties of the future plague our minds and our thoughts go on a rampage and we begin to think like this: “What if I invest a significant amount of money in starting a small business and it fails?” “What if I invest a lot my time and energy into dating and never find true love?” “What if my best efforts are never enough and things go wrong, and I never reach my goals in life?” “What if I take my meds and change my lifestyle but never get better?” “What if?” “What if?” “What if?” Listen, you may think that nothing in life is guaranteed, but you can guarantee this; if you never try, you will never reach your goals. You’ve heard the saying, “Nothing beats a failure but a try.” So give your dreams all you’ve got! Trust God and ask Him for direction in the matter. If He put it in your heart, then He will bring it to fruition, but you can’t be afraid to try! Isaiah 41:10, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”