Do you feel like there’s a void in your life? Have you ever prepared to go somewhere (a vacation, to work, etc.) and you thought you had everything that you needed, yet there was this feeling that something was missing? If you’ve ever ignored that thought, there’s a good chance that you got to your destination only to find that you did forget something that you needed. It’s possible that you forgot about the item you needed because your mind was focused on where you were about to go, but at the same time your subconscious was telling you that there was something else you needed. 

Is there something missing in your life? Do you know what that something is? Is it a family? Is it the certainty of your purpose? Is it self love? Is it God?

There’s a difference between being whole and being complete, and it has to do with two things. Wholeness comes from the Spirit of God, and being complete comes from having attained the fullness of what we feel like we were put on earth for. You can call it your purpose, but really your purpose is a part of the puzzle that makes you complete. It sounds kind of complicated, but I’ll make it plain shortly. It’s very possible to be whole, to walk in your calling, and not be complete. That feeling of incompletion stems from our desires. If you are in tune with the Holy Spirit, God is leading those desires, so you aren’t wrong for having them! 

His Spirit is telling you that you’re missing something! Don’t feel guilty for those desires, like love. Everyone needs love, whether you desire marriage or not. We all need someone. Some people need a husband or a wife. 

Some people need a child. Some people need a cat or a dog. We all need love, and not always in the same way. The best way to receive love, is to give it. You can do this by walking in your purpose and doing it in a way that positively benefits others. In other words, do it out of love and not because you’re seeking anything in return.

I said I’ll make it plain, so, here goes. Wholeness comes from the love of God, and completeness comes from loving and being loved by others. God’s love fills the void and makes us whole, but the love from others and our love for them, makes us complete. It all has to do with love, folks! The Spirit of God gives us everything we need to become complete!

Imagine preparing to bake a cake. God will make sure you have all the ingredients to make a WHOLE cake! The cake comes out the oven, and it’s good the way it is, but depending on the person, you may feel like it’s missing something! It’s missing the icing! The love we want to give and desire from others, is the icing on the cake! 

The icing completes the cake! The cake is whole by itself. Not having the icing doesn’t take away from what makes up the cake, but it can complete it! On the other hand, icing without a cake is well… just icing… (Wonk, wonk, wooonk…) lol We’re not complete if we don’t have anyone to love. In the beginning, God even said, it wasn’t good for man to be alone, so He made a woman. 

Matthew 22:37-40

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”

Do what God created you to do. Don’t imitate other people, be your authentic self. When you try to do something God hasn’t called you to do, it won’t bring the same results as it does someone who is operating in their God given purpose. You will become frustrated and lose heart because you’re trying to do them, instead of doing you! Also, whatever you do in life, make sure you do it 100%.

Make sure all of your ducks are in a row. Make sure you know the facts, and make sure that you are confident in what God has called you to do. Have your business together. If your gift is bringing joy to people with your smile, then be the very best at smiling, brush your teeth, take care of your oral hygiene, because you want to be the best, at what you do! No matter your calling, don’t half step when it comes to your gift or something you’re passionate about, because going over and beyond is what sets you apart from the rest.

If you put forth half the effort, you will yield half results. Whatever you put out, comes back to you. So, no half stepping, and don’t do anything for people’s approval. Do everything as if you’re doing it for the Lord, and God will see that and elevate you!

I’m going to give you a few golden nuggets (secrets) to success… It’s not found in your comfort zone and it’s definitely not found in familiar faces. You must NOT be afraid to take risks, you must be able to accept constructive criticism, and you must learn from your mistakes. Stop thinking that your success rides on the backs of people you know or grew up with, because your success is up to you, and success varies from one person to another. Success is not being rich.

There are plenty of rich people who are failing at life. Success is living a FULL life. Success is accomplishing any of the goals you’ve set for yourself, small and large. Celebrate every goal you accomplish and stop waiting to be happy until you hit the big one! When you hit the big goal, it’s definitely something to celebrate, but if you have a void in your heart, the void will continue to be there when you hit the pinnacle of your success. This is because the world’s idea of success won’t fill that void.

No outside thing can fix those inner issues. So, get right with God and learn to love and be at peace with yourself first, no matter how the world views you. The only One you need to worry about knowing you is, God. Stop working so hard to get people’s recognition, because those people only love the idea of you, and not the real you. The people who love and support you for real, knows the real you and you don’t have to step out of character, or do something dramatic to earn their love, because it’s unconditional. Last but not least, don’t be afraid to get to know new people.

A sad truth is that, most people who’ve known you a long time WON’T support you, for different reasons. You may think they owe you loyalty, but they don’t. It is what it is, focus on those who are loyal to you right now, and aren’t waiting on your “come up” to ride the wave. Most of your blessings will come from strangers. That’s just how God works. The lack of love or support from people you know, can’t stop what God is doing through you.

He put you here for a purpose, and your focus is key to fulfilling it. So, hang in there. Don’t get caught up in what’s going on in other people’s lane, stay in yours! Keep a humble spirit and a pure heart. Keep God first.

Branch out and take risks. Celebrate small success as well as the big. Find love and peace within yourself, and my friend, you’re going to be all right! Love you! ❤️ God bless. 

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you compare and complain about certain areas of your body not meeting the world’s standards? Do you criticize yourself more than you celebrate the person you are? What do you really think about yourself? Do you truly accept yourself, or do you only accept yourself with a filter, designer fashion and all the things of the world that people covet?
Do you dislike your imperfections because the media’s filled with perfectionist? Do you think that it doesn’t really matter what you think?
Let me tell you something my dear friend. Your struggle to love yourself will remain a burden to you if you continue to try to live up to the world’s standards of who’s acceptable. If you look in the mirror and only see that model on social media, how will you ever see yourself?
If you’re only seeing other people, their relationships, accomplishments, or possessions, when will you ever see how blessed you are?
When will you see your true beauty? When will you see how good you’ve got it? Do me a favor. Every time you want to complain about not having what you or the world considers the best of something, thank God that you have what you have, instead.
Gratefulness is a major key to inner peace and self love. If you can’t change something about yourself, embrace it, because some people change what they think was their problem, only to find out that their issues are more than skin deep.
It’s rarely about what’s on the surface, and more about what’s in your heart. It’s time to adjust your crown. The world expects you to maintain a house, maintain a six or seven figure job, raise perfect kids, marry well, be a socialite, have the perfect face and a snatched waist, oh let’s not forget a nice bottom.
Wait, while you’re at it, put on a cape and be sure to save the day… EVERY. SINGLE. DAY.
It’s too much, sis…
You’re trying to keep up with what other people require of you. No wonder you hate yourself… You have no peace because you’re hearing everyone else’s voices. Tell your mind, “Peace be still.” It’s time to quiet your mind so that you hear the voice of the only ONE who truly matters.
He thinks you’re all that, even when you’re a hot mess. He loves you so much that even when you didn’t know Him, He died for you. He calls you blessed. He calls your children, their children and their children blessed. He says, you’re powerful.
He calls you many great things, but what matters most is He calls you by name, and says, you are His! He loves you! Imperfections and all. Perfection is an illusion.
Embrace your realness and then love it, because God does! Trying to keep up with the world standards of what you should look like and who you should be isn’t being a superhero. Embracing who you are and loving how and who God created you to be, now that’s a real super power! Adjust your crown. Love you! 🥰
P.S.
Remember, having it all means being grateful for what you’ve got. 🙏🏾
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It’s all about your mindset and your focus. Negativity and complaining will keep you stuck and depressed. Learn to tune out the distractions. Don’t settle for what’s always been because it’s always been that way! Be a visionary! God is able to help you, but look to Him. The Word tells us, We can do all things through Christ. (See Philippians 4:13)

Think positive and work towards a positive change and you will get positive results. It’s all about faith and action. You must be willing to do something you or anyone else in your family/circle has ever done, if you want a different result in life. Be the first in your family to break a generational curse. Be the first in your circle to become a philanthropist. Set the tone. Whatever you desire in life, begins with you. “God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, love and a sound mind.” – 2 Timothy 1:7

So, what are you going to do. We’re already equipped with everything we need for a godly life, that’s God’s Word. (See 2 Peter 1:3) You want change, it begins with you. Don’t sit on the sidelines and watch other people fulfill their destiny. Get in the field. Don’t be afraid of falling or getting dirty. God has your back. Just remember to keep Him at the forefront of everything you do, and you will succeed.

Proverbs 16:3 (CEV)
Share your plans with the Lord, and you will succeed.

We were created the way we are on purpose. We may lack one thing, but someone else we know may have it. We may have certain talents they don’t, and that’s where purpose comes in. We were created to love one another and share our gifts with each other, and to build each other up. It’s not about this person having a better talent than you. Their talent isn’t better, it’s just different than yours, but the both of you serve a purpose. None of us are perfect. We need each other. So, be your best self. God will bring the right people to you, as long as you’re honoring Him! God knows exactly what you need, and soon, the pieces of your life puzzle will begin to come together and you will see the bigger picture and how each person plays a part in your life and you in theirs. So don’t beat yourself up because you can’t sing, or preach a sermon, or whatever it is, you wish you could do like someone else. Don’t covet their talent, use yours! Somebody needs you! We are all in this together. ❤️

1 Corinthians 12:14-27
14 For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? 18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts,[b] yet one body.

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

A better location, a better body, a better boo, or a better job, will not make YOU better if you’re still jacked up on the inside… Work on the real you, which is your inner man/woman. Things and certain people will only give you a false sense of happiness. It’s really an illusion. Who YOU are, has nothing to do with what you can showcase on the outside. A person’s truth is hidden on the inside, away from the world, and only visible to God and themselves. So, what’s your truth? If you don’t like it, change it. Don’t be prideful; ask God to help you, but be willing to change and be available for Him to use you. Want to know the great thing about YOUR TRUTH? YOU can make a choice about who you are. Your past can’t tell you who you are! The enemy can’t tell you who you are! People can’t tell you who you are! Your situations and circumstances can’t tell you who you are! Listen, you can be a victim or you can be an overcomer. You can dwell in the past or you can make the most of the present and trust God with your future. You can make excuses or you can make it happen with what you have and where you are. It’s up to you. Everything else is a lie if it doesn’t line up with what THE CREATOR OF THE UNIVERSE, says about you! What you believe about yourself is a power that God Himself has given to you! ❤️

Romans 8:37-39

Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.
For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Shift your focus.

Some of us have been in toxic situations so long that we think it’s normal. We learn to cope with it because we believe things won’t get better for us. We pray, we cry, we fight, we quote scripture, we even walk away sometimes, but when things get rough we go right back. We go right back to that toxicity, because it’s a part of us! No matter how much you pray, cry and quote scripture, that unhealthy attachment to whatever it is, WILL NOT go away until you release it mentally.

If you don’t believe me, read Exodus. The children of Israel had been crying out for God to deliver them out of slavery. When He did, their physical address may have changed, but mentally they were still slaves. When they began to go through some things, they wanted to go back to that trauma! Why? Because it was comfortable, meaning that they knew what to expect.

We do the same things in relationships or other areas of our lives. We are afraid to start over with a new person because of the risk of going through what we went through with an ex, so what do we do? We go back or stay with that toxic person because we know them and in our minds it’s easy to deal with something or someone when you know what you’re getting, than it is to start something and be unsure of what you’re getting yourself into.
Want to know the thing that’s holding you back? Fear… When it boils down to it, fear is the root of your problem. You fear uncertainty. You fear being alone. You fear being hurt. You fear rejection. You fear that you can’t do better. You have to release fear, in order to gain your freedom and power.

We must learn to be uncomfortable sometimes. We can’t be afraid of being hurt. We can’t be afraid of falling. Just because you fall, doesn’t mean you have failed. The Bible says, “Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that’s the end of them.” – Proverbs 24:6 (CEV)

Keep getting up. It’s like a baby learning to walk. They stumble and fall. They cry and reach for their parents to help them, but you want to know what else they do, they focus. If a baby can focus on doing what it takes to get from point A to point B, guess what? So can you! It’s time to stop crawling in sin, in dead end relationships, in dead end jobs, in unhealthy connections, in toxic environments, in fear and struggle; and it’s time to walk in the freedom and power of the Holy Spirit! It’s time to walk in purpose! It’s time to walk in love and not our feelings! It’s time to truly walk by faith and not by sight. Shift your focus back to what truly matters, because the distractions doesn’t matter. They are designed to keep you from reaching your destiny, but God!

God is right here, like a parent who’s teaching their baby to walk. He is encouraging you, smiling down on you, loving you and is there to catch you when you fall. Don’t be afraid to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back. You were created for so much more! Press towards the mark! Stand up and walk. Focus on God and let faith be your guide. Tell fear, “You no longer have a room here, in Jesus name.” Amen. 🙏🏾

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Be prepared for what you ask for because you just might get it and have no clue what to do with it. You want to be a person who’s responsible with the blessings God has given you. We don’t want to get what we’re praying for only to mismanage our blessings. Have you ever been in a situation like that? Well, I have…

In the past, I had a job that I was excellent at. I don’t mean to brag, but I was. My past employer will vouch for me. I went to school for the job, took all kinds of extra classes, got all kinds of training and certifications and one day, I decided that I didn’t want to do that job anymore. It had began to take a toll on my health so I don’t regret resigning however, the job that I took to replace my old job seemed more ideal and less stressful but, turns out because I lacked the training it took to be my best at the new job, it became more overwhelming than my last job and so I quit. My health went from bad to worse, due to stress alone.

I wasn’t prepared for the job. It was a decent job. Was it better than my last job? Heck no. They were about the same, except the first job payed more. The second job only “appeared” to be better when I didn’t have it. I didn’t have to do all the things that the first job required, but I still had to put in the same amount of work.

My point is, be prepared for what you pray for. Just because something appears to be “better” doesn’t mean it’s easy. You will have to put in the same amount of work to maintain it, just in a different way. Sometimes, we bite off more than we can chew because we don’t realize what our wants requires. I believe this is why God does not give us everything we want. He gives us some things, but like a good parent, he knows how much we can handle. Just because something or someone seems good to you, doesn’t mean it or they are good for you. Just because someone/something seems better for you, doesn’t mean you’ll be better off. You must count the cost. If you can’t pay the price, don’t attempt the sacrifice. If you do, it could destroy you. Sometimes the things or person we desire in life isn’t what we need to be happy, those things only appear that way on the surface. True happiness is when you feel good in your heart and are at peace in your mind and spirit about what you’re doing to keep that person around or maintain those things in your life.

This pandemic has showed us many things, but the most important thing it has showed us is that God is our source, love is the most important thing in this life, death is inescapable and we are all in this together.

God has showed us that He is our provider! Come hell or high water, He is God; yesterday, today and forever. God is faithful. He is showing us that His Word stands the test of time. He doesn’t falter when we go through difficulties, and neither should you! God is our strength! My family and I started this year off rocky, but our cup has overflowed more than normal, during this pandemic! 🙌🏾 It’s only by the grace and mercy of God! Certain things we had been through before is evident that God is a promise keeper! Not that we’ve doubted, but when I tell you that I can attest to Him doing exceedingly, abundantly, above all me and my family could ever ask or think, God has! Sometimes, fear tries to creep in, because when you’re not used to so many things going right, you begin to look for something to go wrong, but I bind that way of thinking to hell in Jesus name! I receive every good thing God has for me and my family and I receive it with a confident joy because I know that it’s not me or anyone else making this possible, but the hand of God! I trust Him! God has showed my family and I that no matter what uncertainties are ahead, He is our source. My family and I have not had one single worry during this pandemic. Again, we trust God. We take the necessary precautions to remain safe, but we walk by faith and not by sight. As I mentioned before, death is inescapable. One day we will all make that transition. This pandemic has shown us that nothing in this life is certain and we should spend our days loving each other, cherishing those special moments, being united and most importantly seeking God. This pandemic has humbled the world. May each of us come out better and never be the same again.

Special prayers to those who have lost loved ones due to Covid-19. May God comfort your hearts and minds and give you a peace that surpasses all understanding. We never know the day or hour any of us will be called home, but for those who are in Christ, death is not our end. Your family or friend did not die alone, God was still by there side, as He is now. Your loved one is now in the presence of love Himself and they have inexpressible joy, forever. In Jesus name. Amen. 🙏🏾❤️

Romans 8:38-39 New International Version (NIV)

38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.