We were created the way we are on purpose. We may lack one thing, but someone else we know may have it. We may have certain talents they don’t, and that’s where purpose comes in. We were created to love one another and share our gifts with each other, and to build each other up. It’s not about this person having a better talent than you. Their talent isn’t better, it’s just different than yours, but the both of you serve a purpose. None of us are perfect. We need each other. So, be your best self. God will bring the right people to you, as long as you’re honoring Him! God knows exactly what you need, and soon, the pieces of your life puzzle will begin to come together and you will see the bigger picture and how each person plays a part in your life and you in theirs. So don’t beat yourself up because you can’t sing, or preach a sermon, or whatever it is, you wish you could do like someone else. Don’t covet their talent, use yours! Somebody needs you! We are all in this together. ❤️

1 Corinthians 12:14-27
14 For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? If the whole body were an ear, where would be the sense of smell? 18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each one of them, as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts,[b] yet one body.

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

27 Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it.

Father, today we ask you to cover and protect all essential workers. From those in healthcare, grocery/retail stores, truck drivers, postal workers, public safety, farmers/food processors, warehouse laborers; those in the energy, waste and water field, and every other essential worker who’s out there helping us get through this crisis. Thank you for these individuals, God. Many of them were overlooked by society before this pandemic, but may the world never forget how the people in smaller positions play the biggest role in keeping the world going. May they never again be looked down upon, but may this pandemic be a humbling experience to all of us, to remember no one is better than the next person, and we all need each other. Love for our fellow human being is what makes the world go round, not the love of money. May your Spirit rest on us. May this thing that the world is going through, teaches us to love one another your way, and to never again take not even the simplest things in life for granted. Heal those inflicted with this disease. Protect those who are at risk, from it. Help us to do our part to protect ourselves, but let us always be reminded that healing comes from you. In Jesus name. Amen.

Psalm 138:7 (CSB)
If I walk into the thick of danger, you will preserve my life from the anger of my enemies. You will extend your hand; your right hand will save me.

You know what amuses me? When someone throws petty indirect messages, directly at you, but the 💩 backfires and comes back to them like a boomerang.
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I be like, “Oh, that was meant for me? No thank you.” Now, they’re stuck with the insults or jabs they’ve tried to throw at you. You see, you don’t have to receive or respond to anything that anyone says about you or says to you. Words have power, be it negative or positive. If they speak negatively about you, reject those words in Jesus name, and keep it pushing. That’s only their opinion, of you and not your truth. Let them have their opinions. They can keep it, eat it, shove it up their butts or do whatever they want to do with it. Other people’s opinions of you don’t belong to you, it belongs to them. You know the funny thing about someone who always has something negative to say about you? They’re so worried about you, that they can’t see nor correct what’s wrong with them. They can’t mind their business because they’re overly concerned about yours. Matthew 7:4-5 says, “How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” In other words, attend to your own business before concerning yourself with mine. I’m glad that I learned long ago that, you can’t please everyone. Not everyone will like you, support you or love you, and that’s okay. As long as you’re honoring God, and you love, support and believe in yourself, you’re good! Keep those positive vibes regardless of the negativity or shade thrown at you. When people throw shade your way, respond with sunshine. Let your light speak for itself. If you need to defend your character, do so without stooping to their level. You only have to stoop to people who are beneath you. So, continue to rise above the pettiness. Say what you have to say with class and grace. Don’t argue, don’t fight, don’t get your blood pressure up or stress yourself out. Let them do all of that, meanwhile; you let the insults roll off of you like water on a duck’s back. Their hatred and insults shows everyone who they really are. Nine times out of ten, it shows them to be guilty of the very things that they accuse you of. Go ahead and get your shine on! Shine so bright that the shade they try to throw on you, casts a shadow on them. Proverbs 26:27, “If you set a trap for others, you will get caught in it yourself. If you roll a boulder down on others, it will crush you instead.”

Sometimes, we have no control over what we go through in life, however, we do have control over whether we remain a victim for the rest of our lives or become victorious through Christ. If you know someone who’s always giving you a list of their problems, always complaining, and cynical, these people are looking for hope and emotional support. They are looking for a reason to live, because all of their hope is lost to them. There’s nothing wrong with having compassion on these people, praying for them and encouraging them, but don’t stress yourself out trying to solve all of their problems. Direct them to God. There’s a danger in looking to people to pull us through, especially when we’re faced with things that we have no control over. It’s dangerous because our powers as humans, are limited, and we all fall short. So, when a person doesn’t come through like we expect, it can be devastating, if we don’t put our hope in God. We really must be careful about looking to people for validation, security and happiness. Not all attention is good attention, so be careful about how you put yourself out there. If you put yourself out there as a victim, the enemy is going to have a field day with that, and only send individuals your way who will prey on your weaknesses, while you look to them for love. If you change your mindset, by renouncing your feelings and declaring your faith, then you are looking to Christ, and no matter what fiery dart the enemy sends your way, you will stand victoriously and be more than a conqueror. You won’t need people’s sympathy or validation. You will know who and whose you are! You will know that you’re a child of the GREAT I AM. You will know that the weapons may form, but they will not prosper, in Jesus name. It’s a mindset thing, folks. Stop looking to people to pull you out the pit when you’re down and out, or you’ll end up being disappointed every single time. God is our Father, and we were created to look to Him. Other people have their own problems. We’re all dealing with something. It’s selfish to put your happiness and security in the hands of another human being. Stop thinking of only yourself, especially when you’re going through, because that’s how your problems consume you. Think of the Kingdom of God. Even at your worse, be a willing vessel to God, and allow Him to use you. Listen, it’s nice to have people in our lives who has our backs, but that doesn’t mean you should make them your god, or constantly burden them with your problems. Jesus said, in Matthew 11:28, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Did you hear that? HE, will give you rest, after all, that’s what your soul really needs when you’re burdened. You need rest. Not attention from people. That can destroy you, because again, not all attention is good attention. Not all attention is beneficial, some is only around to keep you down, stuck and in a victim’s mindset. You will never reach your destiny if you live your life believing that you’re already defeated. Go to God, and go with a sincere heart, then watch how every one of your needs are met. He never disappoints those who trust Him. He alone is God. Don’t allow a lie someone told you about yourself, or a horrible past, a current situation or previous disappointment, cause you to look to another human being(s) for validation. Look to God.
Matthew 6:33 (NLT)
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

I’ve learned that the best way to understand someone is to empathize with them, and the best way to empathize with them is to get out of your feelings and become selfless. You can’t understand anyone completely if all you hear is yourself. Your thoughts, opinions, and feelings are your perceptions of yourself and the world around you, and not necessarily others truth. So, we must be discerning before becoming defensive, and we must not only give an ear to hear but a heart to listen to what people are saying to us. Be wise in the way in which you deal with people, but also be understanding.

Proverbs 4:7

Wisdom is supreme  —  so get wisdom.

And whatever else you get, get understanding.

For some, having the last word is equivalent to them scoring the touch down that wins the Super Bowl or a TKO that lands them heavyweight champion of the world. I’m serious. These type of people like to argue, but to them, the most important thing is to win. They feel like they’ve won a marathon. Never mind listening to understand, they just love to respond. It makes them feel accomplished, even if the conversation ends with no resolve. That’s not a healthy way to communicate, and if you come across someone who has a comeback for everything, but they never make a point… then it’s best that you excuse yourself from the headache. I mean seriously. You start the conversation with an intention to understand, but they confuse you even further.

You : It’s hot outside.

Them : And another thing, you can’t cook! The dog even hates your cooking…

🧐🤨😑 Can someone please tell me what does their response has to do with the weather? Where did their response even come from? Were you even talking to them? You could’ve been talking to yourself! Lol 

I guess it’s all about how these type of people receive what you’re saying. You could be genuine and respectful in your tone, but I guess when you need to have the last word, you stay in your feelings. Sometimes, they’ll say things to shut you up, and you shouldn’t be mad, because the more you entertain foolishness, the more foolish you become. When you know what you’re talking about, there’s no need to make a fool of yourself by trying to make a point to someone who’s not trying to understand you. All they want to do is be heard, even if what they’re saying doesn’t even make sense to them, as long as they can get the final word, then it’s all good to them. Be cool with letting them have that little bit. Your peace of mind will thank you for it.

Everybody knows the strong one as… THE STRONG ONE. You can see the strength and courage in THE STRONG ONE’S eyes.

THE STRONG ONE fights battles and conquers them. THE STRONG ONE walks through hell and isn’t bothered by the flames. THE STRONG ONE is a prayer warrior, and a great adviser. THE STRONG ONE puts others before themselves. “THE STRONG ONE will know what to do,” they said. “What did THE STRONG ONE say?” they asked. “Let THE STRONG ONE handle it,” they all agreed. So they kept coming from here and there, from everywhere, to see THE STRONG ONE. They’d place everything they didn’t want on THE STRONG ONE’S back, some even put more than they should, but it was all good because THE STRONG ONE was built with a “strong” back. In the people’s minds they said, “THE STRONG ONE will be okay, look how far they’ve come, they can carry more weight.” So nobody checked to make sure that THE STRONG ONE was straight. After all THE STRONG ONE has been through hell and didn’t get scorched by the flames. THE STRONG ONE gets GOD’S attention. He shows favor to THE STRONG ONE. “THE STRONG ONE is STRONG,” they all proclaimed. Until one day they came to draw wisdom from the well of the strong one, and the strong one was drained. “What happened, strong one?” they asked, as the strong one lay on the ground, not making a sound. Smothered beneath the weight of their pile. Not to mention, their own weight that they’d been carrying all alone, with no one to help them… because they were STRONG.

***If you have a strong friend, check on them. Don’t assume that they’re always okay. They are human too, and are in desperate need of someone to pour into them as well. We all need each other. Even the strong have weaknesses…***

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

I remember when I was young and naive, I wanted to marry a man of God, preferably a pastor. In my (young and naive) mind a pastor or man of God in general was a better choice to have as a spouse, than a “regular man”. Silly me… Little did I know that even a man of God was still a freaking MAN! They have the same issues we all have. They sin just as we all sin. They have their struggles and face temptation just like the rest of us. They have things they’ve yet to overcome too! A title doesn’t make them any less of a man. Romans 3:23– For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. ***Sighs*** I just thought… at least I wouldn’t have to face the same demons with a saved man as I did with someone who I was previously unequally yoked with… After “talking” to a couple of pastors, I realized that I had unrealistic expectations. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know that no one is perfect except God… I know this, but why did the guys I end up “talking to” or dating, imperfections had to be so… imperfect? 😒No, not physically… spiritually! Why were they comfortable with spirits that I was uncomfortable with? What was God trying to show me? Well, I believe it’s two things God was trying to show me. One is obvious, and that is that no one is perfect, so I just have to choose my battles wisely when making a decision about a spouse. Obviously, I don’t want to settle for something toxic and try to squeeze love out of it, that’s ridiculous. So, number one again, no one is perfect, but choose your battles wisely. Number two is, well this should be number one because it’s definitely more important, shift your focus to God. All that time, I was looking for a man, I should have been looking to God. Don’t get me wrong, I was saved, but I wasn’t chasing (seeking)  God like I should have, and when you’re not seeking God like you should, you’ll entertain all sorts of ungodliness and all sorts of ungodliness will chase after you. You may try to get rid of it, but if you’re not completely focused on Jesus, then those spirits will torment you. Thank God I’ve found my purpose in life, and is using it to bring God glory, and not myself. Using my gift for the Kingdom of God has changed my ENTIRE outlook on life. The more I began to seek God and use my life for His glory, the less time I had to entertain foolishness, whether it was with a saved man or unsaved man! Listen y’all! SAVED PEOPLE SIN! Lol It doesn’t make it right, but I’m telling you, none of us will reach perfection until we reach Heaven. The only thing we can do is try our best to follow Jesus example of how to live and love, and be like Paul and PRESS!

Love gave us free will, to choose to love or hate. He gave us the choice to trust him and be obedient to his Word, or to trust our feelings and take matters into our own hands. Whatever path we choose, we can be sure that his love for us is unfailing. Jesus died for us when we were his enemies. He loved us even when we didn’t have it all together. Who wouldn’t want to be a part of a family like that?  He never gives up on us, and his mercy is new every day! Everyday we have a choice to trust the God who created us, or to trust what feels good at the moment. There is no gray area when it comes to being a child of God. Either you belong to him, or you don’t. We all know the consequences of sin, and the final result is death, but Jesus came to reverse the curse. As believers, when we leave this life, we will pass into life everlasting. This walk isn’t forced on us, we chose faith over fear. We choose to live by what we know in our heart, mind and soul, and not what the world tells us makes sense. As for me, I’ve tried him, and I know that God is faithful. I’ve taken matters into my own hands before, and have done things outside of Gid’s will, and I screwed up every time. Thank God for his grace! I finally understand what Paul means in 2 Corinthians 12:9, that his grace is sufficient! I choose to use my free will, to live for God, through Christ, simply because he’s God, and there is NO ONE, like him! His faithfulness doesn’t have anything to do with how many times I fall, and that’s what motivates me to get back up and keep pressing towards the mark, again like Paul! God’s always there for us as his children (that’s favor), and he’s promised he will always be, even until the end of the world! Now who wouldn’t serve a God like that?

Don’t cry over spilled milk.

I learned this phrase as a youngster. My mom taught me this when I would make a childish mistake being clumsy, for instance; breaking a glass vase, ripping my favorite pair of jeans or losing money! 😳💸

Those are just a few things, that I would get upset or feel disappointed in myself about. Until ADULTHOOD! Oh the good old days of worrying about minor things like breaking a vase and ripping your pants, even losing twenty dollars! Although the latter probably would still make me cry! No one likes losing money, no matter the amount!

I’ve learned to apply this phrase throughout my life and it’s something that I now tell my children. One of which, who actually dropped a brand new gallon of milk on the floor and cried. I told her not to worry about it, because there was nothing that we could do except clean it up. I think that she and her sisters were more disappointed that they now had no milk to go in their cereal, that they had their mouths ready for. Pretty sure that they could taste how good the fruity pebbles would’ve been swimming in the bowl of cold savory goodness. Their mouths probably watered as they thought about drinking the fruity flavored milk after eating all the cereal out! Now that dream of their awesome breakfast was over. We had spent what seemed like an eternity at the grocery store, and I wasn’t going back to stand in those long lines for a gallon of milk. So after getting the milk cleaned up, they opted for a different breakfast.

Grilled cheese it is! Which filled their bellies just the same, but their minds and mouths still wanted Fruity Peebles, became that’s what they’d made plans for. Eventually they went on about their day, and the tragic accident of spilling the gallon of milk, became a distant memory. It did teach all of them to be more careful when holding groceries and pay attention to their surroundings. They know now, to only carry what they’re able to handle and not to be so anxious.

I believe that when we as adults spill milk, we should take the same approach. Whether your spilled milk came in the form of a loss job, divorce, health issue, rebellious child or whatever your case may be. Instead of spending life crying about what you can’t control, improvise! Life isn’t over, and as long as God has given you life, he’s also given you opportunity! So what it’s not what you’ve planned, but it also hasn’t caught God by surprise!

Sometimes, our plans and God’s will collide! However, when things seems to go haywire and fall apart, something greater is coming together! Disappointments keeps us from settling! Think about it! You would be content with being average, had God not allowed that monkey ranch to be thrown into your world. You are at your full potential, because of the spilled milk! Your faith has grown, because you’ve experienced loss. You don’t make the same foolish mistakes you’ve made in the past, because you’ve learned from it!

So when you get cow dung instead of a wedding cake, or a packed belly instead of a six pack, don’t feel sorry for yourself! Clean the mess up, work some things out! That spilled milk didn’t happen to discourage you! It was a plan to maximize your faith! The triumph is worth the tragedy ❣️

 

Romans 8:28

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.