Be prepared for what you ask for because you just might get it and have no clue what to do with it. You want to be a person who’s responsible with the blessings God has given you. We don’t want to get what we’re praying for only to mismanage our blessings. Have you ever been in a situation like that? Well, I have…

In the past, I had a job that I was excellent at. I don’t mean to brag, but I was. My past employer will vouch for me. I went to school for the job, took all kinds of extra classes, got all kinds of training and certifications and one day, I decided that I didn’t want to do that job anymore. It had began to take a toll on my health so I don’t regret resigning however, the job that I took to replace my old job seemed more ideal and less stressful but, turns out because I lacked the training it took to be my best at the new job, it became more overwhelming than my last job and so I quit. My health went from bad to worse, due to stress alone.

I wasn’t prepared for the job. It was a decent job. Was it better than my last job? Heck no. They were about the same, except the first job payed more. The second job only “appeared” to be better when I didn’t have it. I didn’t have to do all the things that the first job required, but I still had to put in the same amount of work.

My point is, be prepared for what you pray for. Just because something appears to be “better” doesn’t mean it’s easy. You will have to put in the same amount of work to maintain it, just in a different way. Sometimes, we bite off more than we can chew because we don’t realize what our wants requires. I believe this is why God does not give us everything we want. He gives us some things, but like a good parent, he knows how much we can handle. Just because something or someone seems good to you, doesn’t mean it or they are good for you. Just because someone/something seems better for you, doesn’t mean you’ll be better off. You must count the cost. If you can’t pay the price, don’t attempt the sacrifice. If you do, it could destroy you. Sometimes the things or person we desire in life isn’t what we need to be happy, those things only appear that way on the surface. True happiness is when you feel good in your heart and are at peace in your mind and spirit about what you’re doing to keep that person around or maintain those things in your life.

Stephanie Jones was looking forward to retirement. She had worked thirty years at a marketing firm in which she’d spent the last decade as senior marketing executive, a long ways from her humble beginnings at the same firm as a receptionist. Stephanie had spent the last five years of her life as a widow, raising her three children. The two oldest were attending college, and her last child would soon be graduating high school. Everything seemed to be falling in order, according to her plans. She would retire the same year her senior would graduate high school and begin college, and then she would travel, enjoy life and maybe get back on the dating scene, but then her plans suddenly changed. Her daughter got pregnant in high school, and it changed everything. She felt devastated. She didn’t want to raise another child, it was time for her to start back enjoying her life, but she couldn’t abandon her daughter either. So, instead of retiring, she continued to work to support her daughter and now her grandson. During her daughter’s pregnancy, Stephanie went through a deep depression, and always questioned God as to why this had to happen to her? She had plans for her life… but God had other plans. Stephanie didn’t understand God’s plans, but she trusted God, and believed that even during this trying time, all things were working for her good. Oftentimes Stephanie would get caught up in her feelings, but God would remind her not to think of herself, but to think of what her daughter may be going through. Getting pregnant out of wedlock and becoming a single mom was a consequence for her daughter’s sin, but it could have been worse. Although Stephanie battled her own demons during her daughter’s pregnancy, she helped her daughter overcome her demons, depression and she was there for her child every step of the way. Her daughter not only graduated high school on time, but she delivered a healthy baby boy, thanks to God and Stephanie’s support. All the mixed emotions Stephanie previously had vanished when she met her grandson at birth. Seeing him was better than seeing all the wonders of the world, and she praised God. Shortly after her grandson was born, Stephanie was offered the CEO position at the marketing firm, she worked. Stephanie couldn’t believe it. Never in a million years would she have imagined ever being in that position, she was just up for retirement a year ago, but because of unforeseen circumstances, she decided to stay. God worked it out for her good. He taught her that a little patience, compassion and complete trust in Him, would take her a long way. Now Stephanie gets to travel the world at her jobs expense. Not only does she travel the world, but she has been dating. Everything she wanted is falling into place, just not the way she thought it would. Stephanie not only lives by, but can testify to Proverbs 16:3 (CEV), “Share your plans with the LORD, and you will succeed.” God knows our heart, and He wants to give us our hearts desire, but sometimes if we’re not careful, we’ll think that our life is only about our desires, when God wants to use those desires to bring about His perfect plan. Our life is not our own. This is why it’s important to make room for God’s will. Share your plans with Him, and those plans will succeed, because nothing God does can fail. Our plans may not happen in our timing or how we planned, but they will come to past and God will exceed our expectations if we trust Him. Sometimes we need the lesson more than we need the blessing, and once we’ve passed the test, then we can enjoy the benefits of our faith and God’s grace. If you’re going through anything that you don’t understand, ask God for wisdom. His Word says, He’ll give it to you without finding fault in you. Don’t ask God why something is happening to you. Ask Him what is He trying to teach you during this season. All too often we want the blessing, but the lesson is what we really need, so that we’re stronger, wiser and capable of managing what God has for us. ❤️

Psalm 37:4

”Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

Let’s face it, we’re all human, and we’re all imperfect. Naturally we’re going to want to give people the benefit of the doubt, and look for the good in people. We don’t want to make prejudgements and we certainly don’t want to make permanent decisions based off temporary feelings… but we do. Think about it. Have you ever made or known someone to make a decision when they felt mad, sad or desperate? Usually those decisions aren’t the best, and oftentimes in the heat of the moment we do or say things that can’t be undone. Thank God for His mercy, grace and forgiveness. We have to be the same way, merciful, graceful and forgiving. Does being these three things mean we should ignore those invisible red flags that sticks out like a sore thumb when something’s not right? No, most certainly not! Do not ignore those red flags. You may not have solid proof, but God gave us two things that helps us in situations where something is wrong, but we’re unsure about what that something is… He gave us common sense and He gave us an intuition. Both of these are gifts from God. There’s no prejudgment in either of these things, only facts, and the fact of the matter is, something is wrong! Your intuition and common sense let’s you know what’s up before anything goes down. Most of the time the problem is exactly what you think it is. Just to give the person the benefit of the doubt, you communicate with them. You give them a chance to confess what you already know, and this helps some people get the closure that they need to move and sadly some people stay and continue to ignore the red flags until the other person decides to walk away. Listen, don’t allow anyone to use you, especially  to the point that they’ve taken everything good away from you, because it’s you that’s going to be left feeling bitter. Get out while you’re ahead! Don’t ignore those red flags! The benefits aren’t worth the risk! It’s like those medicine commercials. The medication fixes one thing but causes more problems in other areas. IT DOESN’T FIX THE ROOT OF THE PROBLEM IT JUST TREATS THE SYMPTOMS! 🤦🏾‍♀️This is why “Friends with benefits” don’t benefit nobody! Too many red flags along the way that tells you it’s not right and you’re wasting your time. 🚨 Get out while you’re ahead! You’re absence will either do one of two things, make them come to their senses and get themselves together or it will have no effect at all. Don’t think of it as a loss, but a lesson learned.