Confidence my dear friends… Confidence 😊. Oh that’s all there is to it? Why thank you! I’ll remember to have confidence on the day that I attend a Nelly concert and declare to him that he was made for me after I squeeze my way through the other hundred thousand of screaming women declaring the same thing and after I wrestle with security to get back stage. Sure I will be standing on one broken stiletto heel, my hair will look like I’ve been in a chicken fight from other women trying to pull me away. My clothes may be a little dusty from security dragging me out but I will stand proud and he will hear me out! Then afterwards I will proudly limp my way to my car on my one broken stiletto heel but not before looking around the floor to see if I can find the other heel that I lost during the stampede of screaming women. 😄 On a more serious note confidence is only half the battle. Ladies, you can’t expect a doctor to be your future husband if you’re entertaining drug dealers. Fellas you can’t expect a Halle Berry if you’re trying holler at every woman you see. First you have to make sure that you have yourself together. You can’t just come at people any kind of way. If you are trying to attract someone who has their own money and likes to dine at restaurants where filet mignon and lobster is served you can’t come at them looking like Mickey D’s dollar menu… I’m just saying… You want to make a good first impression just like in an interview. If you want to be first draft pick then you have to get your game up. Position yourself to where you need to be so that you can get to wherever it is you’re trying to go. Next you have to open your mouth. Come on, you can do it. I know it seems hard but it’s really not. Try it. Open your mouth and say “Ahhh!” See, that wasn’t hard. Now that don’t mean go up to your crush at the gym and open your mouth to say “Ahhh!” They’re going to think you’re crazy or you have a toothache or something. Somebody may even like it… Who knows? How will the person know that your interested if you never say anything? Are you going to wait on the guy at the gym to come over and make the first move or will you? You never know what could happen if you don’t make that move. Lastly, don’t settle. If it’s worth having then it’s worth waiting for. You may have to put in extra effort but don’t let that stop you. Now that’s enough of chatting on the bench while watching the game. It’s time to get into position and tell yourself I’m going for mine!
Ever feel like the above picture? Trying to juggle life can be both exciting and stressful at times. We’re trying to study for final exams on only an hour of sleep because we work a full time job not to mention Jr. just went to sleep at 5am the same time the alarm went off for you to make your husband a cup of coffee, straighten his tie and kiss him before he’s off to work. “I just need some time to myself. “Not right now baby, mama is using the potty.” ” Sorry that I can’t make the football game son, daddy has to work.” How many times we’ve said these things not realizing how it affects our loved ones? Don’t get me wrong, every now and then we need to set aside some “me” time for ourselves. There is nothing wrong with some peace and quiet every now and then to collect our thoughts. A vacation is definitely helpful as well. All I’m saying is never be too busy to be bothered by loved ones. I know personally that I’m happy to get a break whenever my kids go out of town with their grandmother but five minutes after they leave I be like a sick puppy by the door waiting for them to come back. 🐶 We have to cherish our kids, our spouse, parents, relatives and close friends even when their a headache. They need us and depend on us for something that only we can give. There will come a day that our kids will grow up and we’ll miss the days that they use to bother us. I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news but we don’t live forever either so, cherish every moment and never be too busy to be bothered. 😘
My philosophy is “A better me today makes a greater me tomorrow.” We all have dreams, aspirations or things we simply can improve on. What keeps us from reaching those goals? Most of the time it’s ourselves. God has given us all a talent and a purpose. Some people spend a lifetime trying to figure out what their purpose is. It may seem far fetched but it’s really simple. What is the one thing that you love doing? Not only do you love doing it but you’re great at it and it not only benefit you but it benefits others as well. No I’m not talking about sitting around watching T.V. looking at other people live their dream. What are you doing to make your today better so that your tomorrow can be even greater? For me it’s writing. I knew that I would be an author someday since I was eight years old and every chance I get, I’m making those small steps today that will eventually get me to my greater tomorrow. The road will be ruff sometimes and the rain will pour but keep going, keep pushing and keep pressing! ☺️ So I encourage anyone who has put a dream on hold whether it’s something as small as planting a garden. Remember the seed you plant today could feed a million people tomorrow. Much love. 🙂