If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them go! It could be the best thing that ever happened to you. Holding on to the wrong person can keep you from the right one, or even delay your blessings. Let them move out of your way, so that you can see clearly. Sometimes, the very person you’re holding on to is your biggest distraction.

Don’t be a person who tries to make everyone or even one person love you. You can’t make anyone treat you right, love you, or be loyal to you. Accept the fact that a part of growing is accepting the fact that you will grow apart from some people. Some of these people will be friends or family members. Not everyone can go where God is taking you.

So, if they leave, bid them farewell, and continue to keep on keeping on. What God has for you, is for you, whether it’s a relationship, job, healing and wholeness, financial breakthrough, or whatever you need. God is the Source. Everything else is a resource. Depend on no one but God alone, and remember, if God is all you have, you have EVERYTHING, that you need. ❤️

Read my book, “How to let go and let God.”

Coming to terms with who you are can be a hard pill to swallow. The truth hurts, it can even be ugly, but it also sets you free. Freedom costs. It doesn’t matter which angle you view it from, there’s a price to pay, in order to be free. Nothing in life, is free. I can hear someone saying, “Jesus paid it all.” Guess what? That doesn’t mean we get to behave godless all of our lives, and expect a reward in Heaven. Again, freedom cost, and in the body of believers, our freedom costs us our life. Romans 6:6-7, 6:15, 6:23 “For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin– because anyone who has died has been set free from sin.”
“What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means!” “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Listen, our imperfections are no excuse for us to be comfortable in our mess. We know the Word of God, and as children of God we know when God speaks to us. John 10:27, “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me.” Let me break that down, just in case you read it too fast. Jesus said, His sheep don’t just hear His voice, He knows them, they hear Him AND (key word) they follow Him. James 1:22, “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.” We know when we can do better by God, ourselves and others, but the fact of the matter is, sometimes it’s easier to blame other people or even God, for where we fall short, than to look inside ourselves and face our truth. Neither change or growth will happen until we accept who we are right now. Not who we aspire to be, and not who we think we are. Romans 12:3, “For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.” The truth of the matter is, we know the areas that could use improvement in our lives. We know when we could exercise more patience. We know when we could be more understanding or compassionate. We know where we fall short, and recognizing that truth, hurts, because it lets us know, we’re not all that we may think we are, and we have work to do, but that’s okay. We’re all a work in progress and we won’t reach perfection until we reach Heaven, but that doesn’t mean we can’t press towards the mark. Philippians 3:12, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. It’s all about striving to be like Christ. Knowing who we are is humbling, and it keeps us in check. That awareness makes room for God to work on us, and through us. If we pretend that our shortcomings or things that have gone wrong in our lives are all a result of what someone else did, then there’s no room for correction, or God. We must come to terms with the fact that we are human, which means we’re imperfect. We must hold ourselves accountable for where we are in life, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We’ve all been through something, but that isn’t an excuse to live any kind of way. Each of our lives are each of our responsibilities. We must face our truth with a sincere heart and a sober mind. Healing can’t begin until we admit that there’s parts of us that are broken. We can’t run from who we are, we’ll just run into the same old problems. Why? Because we’re carrying the same old baggage. We can’t blame others for who we are, where we are in life, or we’ll never heal, and old ourselves accountable for our own life and success. John 8:31-32, “To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, ‘If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.’” We must honor God with our lives. The way in which we think and act, reflects the truth within us. What’s your truth? Do you love your truth? Could your truth use some improvement? Is your truth self serving, or is it governed by Jesus, who is the way, the truth and the life (John 14:6)? When God shows you who you are, what do you see? Do you see Christ or do you see your feelings? Are you walking in the fruits of the Holy Spirit, or do you walk around with a chip on your shoulder, making everything about you? We must get over ourselves and be humble, having the mindset of Christ. Philippians 2:3, 2:5, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves.” “Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.” True freedom which can only be found in Christ, will cost us our feelings and ultimately our lives. It’s all about overcoming ourselves so that we become our best selves in Christ. 40480802-E8A0-461E-8F75-EB61A1380FF1

You know, it’s one thing for us to know when we’re settling for less, but it’s a whole different ballgame once someone else recognizes that we are settling. Sometimes we become comfortable or complacent, and we learn to live with it until someone else comes along and give us a wake up call by calling our bluff! The truth is real happiness doesn’t have anything to do with comfort. Just because you’re comfortable with something or someone doesn’t mean you’re happy, but oftentimes in order to be truly happy you have to experience discomfort. Life is about putting in work. It’s not always about hard work but you do have to be consistent and committed. Most importantly you must choose to be happy whatever the cost. Happiness takes work, because not every day that you wake up is going to be great, but you have to make a conscious decision that no matter what you’re going to smile, be happy, kind, stay focused and trust God. Don’t allow life to beat you up to the point to where you’re comfortable with losing so you began to settle. When life hits you hit back even harder because you know that greater is He that is in you than he that is in the world, and you’re more than a conqueror! Hitting back may hurt you more than the initial hit you took from life, whether you’ve dealt with heartbreak, losing a loved one, going bankrupt, battling an illness or addiction or trying to overcome a painful childhood, whatever your case may be, healing will hurt at first, but it will get better in time. So, never get comfortable with settling in your pain or settling for less than you know you deserve. Your happiness depends on you making that uncomfortable decision and commitment to do whatever is necessary to live your best life. No one is truly happy with settling for less than they deserve, they just become comfortable with it. Comfort is not always beneficial though, in fact, it stunts your growth; physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and a lot of times even financially. So today’s challenge is to really dig deep and ask yourself, are you truly happy with where you are in life, or are you just comfortable? If somebody else came up to you, and saw you how you see yourself, would you be happy? If someone else sees your truth, and it bothers you, you’re not happy… and it’s time for YOU to do something about it!

So, a plank, for those of you that don’t know, is timber that’s long, flat and rectangular. It is used in construction of ships, houses, bridges and other structures. So, in Matthew 7:3-5, when Jesus was giving a lesson on discernment, He basically told us that we need to take care of our personal obstruction of view before trying to help someone else see clearly.  How can we use godly discernment if our own feelings and self righteousness is in the way? When someone chooses to point out wrongs in others without dealing with their personal faults; I call that the invisible plank.

It’s really a spirit of hinderance. Think about it. A plank is used in construction to build something. When someone judges others for sinning differently than them, just what are they building? I’ll tell you what. A wall of darkness, that’s not only keeping that person from seeing the light, but also keeps them from being a light. Self accountability is the light that chases away the dark cloud of Hinderance.

I mean we have to be real with ourselves when pointing the finger, because when we point one finger, three points back at us. It’s like when you’re on an airplane, and the flight attendant is giving you information on how to apply the mask. The attendant always tells you to put on yours before trying to help someone else. Why? Because you could possibly pass out while trying to help someone else!

You must take care of yourself before properly caring for someone else. Are you carrying around an invisible plank in your eye? You may have been if you’re doing more blaming than acknowledging. You may be if you accept one sin and frown on others. 😕 Let’s do better by ourselves and our fellow man or woman.

The truth is, we may genuinely want what’s best for others, and are trying to lead them the right way, but we can’t lead effectively if we ourselves are in darkness. People look more at your actions than they hear your words. If you don’t practice what you preach, you’ll be seen as hypocritical, and no one will take you seriously. Remember, self righteousness and a lack of personal accountability hinders one from becoming! Becoming what?

Becoming the very best you that God created you to be, and becoming a living testimony to others of the grace of God! People need to hear your story. They need to see that you too have weaknesses and that none of us will reach perfection until we reach Heaven. Still, as Paul said, “I press.”

Keep pressing towards the mark! You’re going to make mistakes and guess what? IT’S OKAY! Jesus died and rose again one time for your lifetime of mistakes! 🙌🏾 Through Christ we are perfected, but we’re not perfect. The only way to keep it real with others, is to first keep it real with yourself! 😉

Be blessed.

Matthew 7:3-5 (NIV)

Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.


Sooo, if someone asks me what is one of my pet peeves? Being inconvenienced would definitely be somewhere near the top of my list. Why? Because I had plans! I usually go about my day on a specific schedule and if those plans are interrupted, it can become frustrating. 

Why is this frustrating? One word, time. There’s 24 hours in a day, and if I have those hours already mapped out, I’m not a happy camper when I find out that I have to alternate my route. But isn’t that just how life is? The Word of God says, “We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps. -Proverbs 16:9.” 

Smh… well, I deal with it. The inconveniences I mean, knowing that it’s not a shocker to God, that I was going to face this speed bump, road block, traffic jam or whatever metaphor you’d like to use to describe the ghost of inconvenience. I believe inconveniences are a test, as with many other not so pleasant situations we face. If you really think about it, inconveniences work for our good, because they keep us out of our comfort zone, which is important for our spiritual growth. 

So, I may not be happy about being inconvenienced, but it is a reality check, a reality check that tells me I need to stay focused on the task ahead, and that is remaining in Christ and doing exactly what He has called me to do. If I stay focused, then inconveniences shouldn’t be too much of a problem, because I’m equipped and prepared to handle what comes my way. 

John 15:9

“As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love.”

2 Corinthians 12:9

But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

Be careful about how you spend your time. Sometimes the things we do seems harmless, but we must ask ourselves during those moments that we’re consuming our time on the things we deem harmless, if those things are beneficial to our emotional, physical and spiritual growth. Think about it. 3.5 hours spent playing a game everyday for a week, is 24.5 hours. That’s over a day, you could’ve taken to invest in your future. The game may keep your from boredom, but there are many ways to escape boredom that can also be beneficial to your overall wellbeing. To escape boredom the effective way, you must be willing to get out of your comfort zone. Get out of your own way. There’s something deep on the inside of you, that’s waiting to be birthed. Don’t delay it by wasting precious time. There’s a saying, “Time is money.” This is true, but what’s also true is the fact that “Time is more precious than money,” -Shubricca L. Bell. You can get money back, but you can never get back time. So, the important thing to remember is, because you can’t get back time, and tomorrow isn’t promised, make sure you’re making the most out of today. The people who make video games are using their talents. Are you using yours? Forget winning a game, are you winning in life? I’m not saying playing games is wrong, but I’m saying pay attention to how long you spend doing anything that seems harmless, but could be taking away from you developing your full potential in Christ and in life. God cares about our overall health and well-being. So before you play that game, or pick up the remote to watch TV, or waste time entertaining someone who you know isn’t any good for you, or whatever your go to usually is, to escape boredom or your current reality, ask yourself what can you do today to better your tomorrow? A great life doesn’t just happen. It all starts with how you choose to use your time. At the end of this life, you don’t want to stand before God and He asks, why you didn’t use your gifts, and your response is, because you were doing this or that. Again, the things you’re doing may seem harmless to you, because they’re not hurting anyone, however they are hindering you. There are people who struggle in certain areas of life, that they don’t even have to struggle in. They’ve just gotten comfortable in the struggle, so they don’t feel a need to change. Whether they are following in their parents footsteps or went through something in life, and turned to certain addictions instead of God. The habits that these individuals have formed is their way of life. God wants to change that way of life, and transform our minds to things that will lead us to eternal life. We must have a mindset of Christ, who was always about God’s business. Jesus was always walking in His purpose. He faced the same temptations we face, because let’s not forget He walked the earth as both 100% man and 100% God. Knowing who you are in Christ, and what you were created to do, will keep you from being idle. The more you operate in your purpose, the less time you’ll spend doing things that’s not beneficial to where God is taking you, showing you, and trying to do in your life, If you’d just get out of your comfort zone.

1 Corinthians 10:23(NIV)
New International Version
“I have the right to do anything,” you say–but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”–but not everything is constructive.