Make sure you’re equally pouring into that strong friend or family member. Oftentimes, the strong person fights their battles quietly because they’re so busy attending to everyone else. They’ll say that they’re okay. They’ll smile. They’ll do things to make you more comfortable and yet, they’ll be struggling or in pain.
The sad thing is that they feel like they’ve got this! They feel like they have everything under control when deep inside, they are falling apart. Instead of asking for favors, do a favor for that strong person in your life. Call and check on them. Pray for them.
Send them some flowers while they’re still in the land of the living. Mail them a appreciation card. Do something to let them know that they’re valued and appreciated. Let them know that they’re loved in words and actions. You get to know a person by what they show and tell you, but if you pay attention to what they don’t tell you, you’ll find out so much more.
Some people pretend to be strong because others expect them to be. Some people pretend to be strong because if they don’t take up the mantle, their family will fall apart. Some people pretend to be strong because if they show a sign of weakness, they fear no one will understand. Remember, we’re all going through something. Some people are going through small trials, while others are facing big tests. No one has it together all the battles.
So, check on that person who’s always good. Make sure that they’re really good, and if not, be there in whatever way God leads you. If you’re the strong friend, talk to someone if you need to. Your thoughts aren’t small. They’re just as important as everyone else’s.
Don’t hold everything in until you lose control. Your peace of mind is necessary for a healthy life. So, how’re you doing? You good? If not, let’s talk about it or I can simply be a listening ear. ❤️ Love you.

The truth is, they’re not your friend. They’re just nosey neighbors, and like a nosey neighbor, they’re only here for the tea. Some people get a kick out of minding (not theirs) YOUR business! So, don’t take these “friends” (and you know who they are) too seriously! Also, let me just say this, just because you grew up, went to school or worked with many of these people, it does not mean they’re actually your friends. They’re just associates and some of them you know for a fact don’t like you. The point is, please stop posting all of your business to social media because most of your “friends” don’t care, they just want something to talk about. Real friends don’t get a kick out of other people’s misery, or whatever it is you’re going through. Real friends are those who knows how to get a prayer through, who supports you, encourages you and genuinely loves you. If you have those real friends in your friends list, you should thank God for them because real friends are just as rare as real love these days, and that’s real talk! But God! Let me tell you! He will use strangers to bless you! Most of the people who supports you mentally, emotionally and who supports the vision God has given you, are not going to be in your friends list. I’m just keeping it one hundred. You see for many people, they want you to do better… just not better than them, and these people are people you know!! Those aren’t real friends. Anytime your growth or success makes a person insecure, jealous, or causes them not to support you as a friend, then that person was never really your friend. No worries though, it’s good that God is exposing them now rather than later. So, in closing I’m just going to say, quit putting on a show for people who don’t care, and stop looking for support from people who don’t want you to succeed. Again, not everyone in your friends list are like this, and you know who your real friends are, but for the other eighty to ninety percent, they don’t really care. They’re just here to be entertained, anyway you choose to entertain them. So, be cautious about what you choose to let these social media “friends” see. Not everything is everybody’s business! 💯

Love gave us free will, to choose to love or hate. He gave us the choice to trust him and be obedient to his Word, or to trust our feelings and take matters into our own hands. Whatever path we choose, we can be sure that his love for us is unfailing. Jesus died for us when we were his enemies. He loved us even when we didn’t have it all together. Who wouldn’t want to be a part of a family like that?  He never gives up on us, and his mercy is new every day! Everyday we have a choice to trust the God who created us, or to trust what feels good at the moment. There is no gray area when it comes to being a child of God. Either you belong to him, or you don’t. We all know the consequences of sin, and the final result is death, but Jesus came to reverse the curse. As believers, when we leave this life, we will pass into life everlasting. This walk isn’t forced on us, we chose faith over fear. We choose to live by what we know in our heart, mind and soul, and not what the world tells us makes sense. As for me, I’ve tried him, and I know that God is faithful. I’ve taken matters into my own hands before, and have done things outside of Gid’s will, and I screwed up every time. Thank God for his grace! I finally understand what Paul means in 2 Corinthians 12:9, that his grace is sufficient! I choose to use my free will, to live for God, through Christ, simply because he’s God, and there is NO ONE, like him! His faithfulness doesn’t have anything to do with how many times I fall, and that’s what motivates me to get back up and keep pressing towards the mark, again like Paul! God’s always there for us as his children (that’s favor), and he’s promised he will always be, even until the end of the world! Now who wouldn’t serve a God like that?

Have you ever been in one of those situations where a friend of yours  was deeply saddened or upset about something and they came to you for comfort? You listened to their story and wished that there was something, anything, hopefully you could somehow find the perfect words to comfort them? I find myself in this situation a lot. I ask God. Why me Lord? I don’t have a PH.D. in Phycology . Half of the time I don’t know what to tell most of the people that come to me. I’m even shocked that people I’m only mildly associated with choose to confide in me. I always worry about the right thing to say and most of the time I barely say anything. Usually after they vent or tell me whatever is on their mind, they go away with a smile and even thank me. I don’t think it’s a big deal, all I did was listen. But someone once told me that sometimes listening is all a person really needs. You don’t need to have the fanciest vocabulary or impressive words. You don’t even have to hold a degree in counseling. Sometimes a person finds comfort in knowing that someone is there just to be a shoulder to cry on (you’re listening), a hand to hold (you’re listening) or a hug when their world is caving in (you’re listening). Don’t beat yourself up trying to find the right words to say in difficult situations. Let your love speak by simply listening.

Sometimes the pressures of life can come banging on our door early in the morning like an unwanted guest. Usually when this happens you may go about with a stale face like you’ve been sucking on a lemon all morning. Lighten up, this too shall pass. I will be the first to admit that sometimes I dread being an adult. Oh the good old days when I was a child and I only had to worry about the Buggie Monster, or doing my chores so that I could go outside and then I’d have nightmares about my brother drinking my kool-aid. Now the Buggie Monster has been replaced with bills, my chores has been replaced with too many things to do and not enough time and my nightmares has been replaced with getting off work only to come home and sleep then dream about work just to get up and go to work again. 😑 Tuesday was definitely my Monday but that all changed by the afternoon and my frown turned upside down and a smile crept through and then a laugh! No I didn’t win the lottery but I got something that’s priceless instead. Someone came along and lightened my load by simply making me laugh. After I laughed I felt a thousand times better and my problems seemed like a small thing to a giant! Afterwards I told myself “See, you need to lighten up! Everything will be ok! What are you worrying for?” (Matthew 6:25-34) Sometimes we want to be alone when life throws us it’s many challenges but during that time we need to embrace our family and friends and focus on what’s more important. The people that are close to you don’t want to see you down and I guarantee if you surround yourself with people close to you then you’ll feel better. Even if you’re good at hiding what you’re going through somehow they know when something is wrong and without asking you a thing they’ll do something to take a load off and a lot of times it’s doing something as simple as making you laugh!😬😂 Thank God for family and friends! Here’s to you guys for reminding us that life is to grand to sweat the small stuff, cherish the people around you, take a load off and lighten up. ☺️

We may hear this a lot whether it comes up as a discussion amongst friends or if you know someone that always receives the short end of the stick. 😉 You may even be that person .😎 Have no fear I’m here to give some insight to this mystery. Now that I have your attention let me direct you to a personal question. What is keeping you from making an impact on the world? I know a lot of y’all may be thinking. What? Yeah I threw a curve ball at y’all! Y’all was looking to left field but I hit it right. 🙃 Believe it or not I came across this pondering question while taking a dump! 💩 It may not sound lady like but it’s real. We all do it no matter how cute we are. Anyways, to get back on topic I want to make you think about something. It’s not the size but the impact. Now repeat the previous sentence…. You don’t have to be a billionaire or an A list celebrity to make an impact on the world. What are you doing today that will positively impact someone on your job, at home, at the grocery store or taking a walk in your neighborhood? It may seem like you have to do a lot but I assure you that something as little as a friendly smile or an encouraging word can be all a person needs to make their day. Kindness is contagious! Your act of kindness to one person can result in someone else being blessed and before you know it you could even save a life! 😊 So for the burning question in your mind. Size does not matter but the impact does! You may say “What can little old me do that will make an impact on this big world?” Be the best you that you can be and spread the love! Come on, you can do it! It’s not rocket science. So if you’ve been getting the short end of the stick in your job, relationships, finances or whatever it maybe, I challenge you to move some things around, change up your game, you may even have to deal with being in an uncomfortable situation for a while (come on Holy Spirit, I just felt something in my spirit y’all) but do whatever it is that you need to do to make your climax and not just any climax but your major climax! 😬 I may have lost a few of y’all again but I assure you that I am not talking about sex. I’m talking about reaching the point of it all and doing it at your BEST because it’s not the size that counts but the impact!