Pray before you speak in anger. If you be still and allow God to move on your behalf, you’ll be amazed by how God chooses to bless you. The person you may be impatient with could be the person who shows you the kindness and compassion you need to smile again. That petty issue that you’re upset about, could be a misunderstanding, and if you remain humble for God, and listen to His voice, something beautiful can be birthed from you not giving in to your anger. It’s easy to feel and give into those feelings, whether they’re justified or not, but don’t act out of feelings alone.

Respond with truth and respond in love. Sometimes we must be silent, in order to hear God clearly. So, quiet those thoughts, words, anxieties, and learn to be still. You may help lead someone to Christ, or the person you’re upset with could have a powerful testimony you need, or you may have the patience and gentle spirit they need to get inspired and put things into proper perspective.

Everything happens for a reason. You may not know that when a situation arises that you can’t make sense out of, but know this, you will be surprised at how God moves in your life when you don’t react in anger, when you stay patient, and when you remain humble. Doing these things allows you to put yourself and your feelings aside, and allow God to not only fight on your behalf, but allow His glory to shine on you. I challenge you to be at peace the next time you want to act in anger, and watch the good that comes out of the situation. You can’t go wrong when you choose to fight the right way.

What’s the right way to fight when you’re triggered? You fight by being still. How to be still? By not giving into your anger. Don’t allow anger to control you. Control it, by letting letting it go, and allowing our Awesome God to fight for you!

Ephesians 4:26 (GNT)

“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.”

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Dear God,
Forgive my sins and heal my heart. Heal that deep dark place that I hide behind my smile, my gifts, and my wisdom. Get rid of that spirit of perversion which is causing me to be double minded and blind to the Truth. You are the Way, the Truth, and the Life, Jesus. Lord, I trust you with my entire being. It’s your Spirit who keeps me focused when the distractions are closing in on me, or when things aren’t going according to plan. Help me to remember that you chose me. Not because I’m perfect, but because your perfect will can be done through me and because you first loved me. Wash me in your blood. Remove those suppressed feelings that are secretly harboring garbage in my spirit. I denounce bitterness, hate, vengeance, lust, rage, envy, depression, physical or mental sickness, and any foolishness of this world. I look to you God, to repair my brokenness. I can’t do this by myself and no one else has that power. I give myself away, completely to you. Change me and make me more like you. Change my way of thinking. Let my walk match my talk, and let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight. Let whatever I do in the dark, match what I profess in the light. In the name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

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Excuse my rant but editing sucks! 🗣🗣🗣
If you’re a writer, I’m sure that you get where I’m coming from. It’s really tough when you’re a self-published author, like myself, who has to do A-Z of the writing process 📢 BY YOURSELF! You may wonder where this frustration is coming from.
Well let me tell you. Editing shows you all your mistakes. It shows your inconsistencies. It shows where you can use some improvement. You even have those moments where you’re like, “What the hell was I thinking?” That’s me, currently, while editing one of my books for the fifty-leventh time!
Anyway, now that I’m done ranting.
I want to give you some quick inspiration. While going through the motions of my love/hate relationship with editing, I’ve realized that life’s a big old edit. Except you can’t go back and change the past, but yeah. Think about it. You may not be able to change the past but you get a do over. You can ultimately change the trajectory of your story.
If you pay attention, you can learn from your mistakes and become wiser. You may make some pretty awesome plans for your life only to find out that it’s best to take a completely different route, or that you suck at that and need to find your niche, or whatever the case may be. Just as editing can show you the truth about your work. Life can show you the truth about… your works! Life shows us who we are and it’s up to us to pay attention.
We don’t have to like the editing process of life that causes us to face some hard truths about ourselves, but in the end, it helps shape, mold, and grow us. In the end, if we’ve paid attention to the editing process of our lives, we will end up with a beautiful story.
So, even though editing to me is like the trials and tribulations of book writing, I can’t help but be patient and pay attention. I make it my business to learn from my previous mistakes so that I won’t continue to waste time. I’m ready to move on to the next level of this editing phase, but this part requires my attention, self discipline and patience. A lot of which the next level of my life is requiring. Thank God for Jesus, because in the editing process of life, His grace is sufficient for us to make it through. He’ll even help you with the entire process of writing a book. 😉
Anyway, hope you have enjoyed. No, I didn’t edit this. So if there’s mistakes, too bad. I’ve been editing for twelve hours straight, I have a headache and I just want to eat tacos and go to bed. Goodnight! 🌙😘

Don’t ever give yourself away to the point of which another human being has power over your life. Power over your happiness, your smile, your purpose, your day to day life, or how you interact with family and friends. When you give a person your everything, and make your life revolve around them and only them… you’re making that person your god, and you are putting your life in danger, because if and when that person walks away they are taking every single thing you’ve given to them, with them. They’re taking your mental health, emotional health, spiritual, and in a lot of cases physical health with them as well, and they are leaving you malnourished and on the brink of death. This is why it’s so important to seek God first.

Get lost in God’s love first, then love yourself without having to be attached to another person, and learn become whole. The wrong spirits know who to prey on. If you don’t know who you are, you will try to find your identity in a relationship or other people. If you don’t love yourself, you will also look for the love you should be giving yourself within a relationship, or again, other people. Those ungodly spirits will trick you into believing a person is your savior and they will use the wrong person to try to kill, steal, and destroy your life.

Your happiness and self love should never be tied to a person/people. Not your spouse, not your child, not your parents, friend, mentor, pastor or whomever. People aren’t perfect and not everyone has good intentions. Some people have ulterior motives. The wrong people will tell you what you want to hear, and they will manipulate you and prey on your weaknesses if you’re lead by your feelings.

Your identity isn’t found in people, it’s found in Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. God has to be your focus, not your feelings. For more insight, get your copy of my new book “How to let go and let God” by clicking the link below. ⤵️⤵️⤵️

Some people keep running into the same problems because they continue to carry the same problems… Let it go.

If it seems like trouble follows you everywhere you go, then you might want to check your baggage. IJS…

So, where is this “baggage” stored? It’s stored in your mind. Everything we do, begins with our mind. This is why it’s so important to have the right mindset. A free mindset, that is not bound by past experiences, present situations or future uncertainties. We should have a focused mindset. A mindset that’s focused above and not beneath (see Colossians 3:2).

Some of the baggage we’re carrying around is not necessary for our journey, it’s dead weight and is only weighing us down. Too much baggage will not only slow you down, but it will stop you! So, you must learn to pack light and choose what you pack, wisely. Some life experiences needs to be packed for wisdom and strength. The experiences that leaves you fearful, bitter, weak and confused, has to go!

2 Timothy 1:7, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” Thanks to God, our Father, we have every tool we need to live a purposeful life. There’s no need for extra baggage, especially the kind of baggage that keeps us stagnant while the world around us continues to move.

Hebrews 12:1-2
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

It’s time to throw off the baggage that’s keeping you from running YOUR race. The past has served its purpose, now it’s time to walk in purpose! For more insight, get your copy of my book, “Betrayed with a kiss,” by clicking the link below… ⬇️⬇️⬇️

Listen, when beginning a relationship, of course you should start off as friends and get to know each other. The best relationships starts with friendship. However, we’re not addressing platonic friendships today. Today we are addressing these “friendships” in which many of us call “situationships” today. A situationship is supposed to be an agreement or understanding that the two people involved do relationship things or marital things, without a marital commitment… Confused? Lol. Well, so are these people in these situationships or has found themselves going back and forth as “just friends” with a person for umpteen years. It doesn’t have to be a lot of years, it could be any amount of time. I know that I said a situationship is suppose to be an agreement or understanding, but most of what supposed to be agreed upon or understood is never discussed… it’s really just two people acting on impulse or emotion and not giving any thought to how it will affect them in the long run. That’s dangerous, because acting on what we feel right now, can hinder us later. We must learn to keep our emotions in check, and not to make long term decisions with temporary people. People who have no desire to take the relationship further than the bedroom or out to eat or whatever bare minimum they’re offering to keep you around in order to satisfy a specific need. If you don’t keep your feelings in check, you will block a blessing or blessings from coming into your life. In terms of relationships, you could block a man or woman whose good for you from coming into your life and being a blessing for you, because you’re still entertaining that “friend.” You’re still entangled. Even if you say that you’re done with that friend, are you? Or is your heart, mind and soul still connected to that individual? Do you still want to be with them even if the situationship has ended? Are you still lusting after this person? Do you feel bitter about them moving forward with their life and leaving you behind to be with someone else who wasn’t there for them like you was? Come on, let’s talk about it. We’re grown. We may be saved, but we’re also human! This is the danger that I was talking about earlier, when I spoke about how the decisions we make that are based on impulse or emotion can hinder us later on. Many people find themselves stuck in a ungodly soul tie for decades because they’ve been in this situationship with a person, doing marital things with someone who hasn’t given them any commitment. They’ve given them something that has made them feel good, but is not beneficial for them, whether it’s attention, sex, money, company or something else. Then when the person moves on, the other person is broken, confused and bitter about someone who was never theirs to begin with! You see how these “friendships” are dangerous? Think about how a person must view themselves to commit to a situation like this? Think about how they must view other people! It’s just a negative cycle of hurt people hurt people, because feelings will get involved. I can guarantee you that at least one person’s feelings WILL get involved in a situationship. It’s hard to get out of these situations, long after it has ended. Why? Because there’s an attachment there. There’s a bond there that can only be broken with God and with self awareness. You must figure out what’s going on inside of you, and what caused or is causing you to settle for a “friend” instead of preparing yourself for a life partner, because friends only treat the symptoms of a deeper issue within us, they don’t cure the problem. The problem is still there, if we don’t turn it completely over to God.
We settle for what’s comfortable and not necessarily beneficial for us because in our minds, it’s safe. It’s easier to have a “friend” than it is to have a husband or a wife. A friend usually comes with no strings attached, except when they do! (Ungodly soul ties)
We think that we can get out of a situationship whenever we want to, but that’s only physical. It’s hard to completely walk away when your mind and soul is still invested. Notice I didn’t say impossible, because nothing is impossible for God. In a situationship, you’re not really concerned about your heart being broken (at first) because you’re just, “friends.” You’re having fun, until it’s time to pay. So, before committing to a situationship (because there’s definitely a commitment involved, whether it’s given verbally or spiritually), weigh the cost. Finding someone to treat the symptom won’t fix you and committing to something that has no long term benefits won’t cure you. It’s a heart issue… address it and give it to God. There is someone out there who’s just right for you, you just need to let go of the wrong one(s), and let go of your past, and stop allowing those people/things to hinder you.

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Inspirational romance novel. Work was Caroline’s life. A relationship was the furthest thing from her mind until she met a charmer named Mike. Just when Caroline decides to give Mike a shot, her ex Stacy comes back into her life and complicates things. Will Caroline spark a new fire or rekindle an old flame?


Don’t cry over spilled milk.

I learned this phrase as a youngster. My mom taught me this when I would make a childish mistake being clumsy, for instance; breaking a glass vase, ripping my favorite pair of jeans or losing money! 😳💸

Those are just a few things, that I would get upset or feel disappointed in myself about. Until ADULTHOOD! Oh the good old days of worrying about minor things like breaking a vase and ripping your pants, even losing twenty dollars! Although the latter probably would still make me cry! No one likes losing money, no matter the amount!

I’ve learned to apply this phrase throughout my life and it’s something that I now tell my children. One of which, who actually dropped a brand new gallon of milk on the floor and cried. I told her not to worry about it, because there was nothing that we could do except clean it up. I think that she and her sisters were more disappointed that they now had no milk to go in their cereal, that they had their mouths ready for. Pretty sure that they could taste how good the fruity pebbles would’ve been swimming in the bowl of cold savory goodness. Their mouths probably watered as they thought about drinking the fruity flavored milk after eating all the cereal out! Now that dream of their awesome breakfast was over. We had spent what seemed like an eternity at the grocery store, and I wasn’t going back to stand in those long lines for a gallon of milk. So after getting the milk cleaned up, they opted for a different breakfast.

Grilled cheese it is! Which filled their bellies just the same, but their minds and mouths still wanted Fruity Peebles, became that’s what they’d made plans for. Eventually they went on about their day, and the tragic accident of spilling the gallon of milk, became a distant memory. It did teach all of them to be more careful when holding groceries and pay attention to their surroundings. They know now, to only carry what they’re able to handle and not to be so anxious.

I believe that when we as adults spill milk, we should take the same approach. Whether your spilled milk came in the form of a loss job, divorce, health issue, rebellious child or whatever your case may be. Instead of spending life crying about what you can’t control, improvise! Life isn’t over, and as long as God has given you life, he’s also given you opportunity! So what it’s not what you’ve planned, but it also hasn’t caught God by surprise!

Sometimes, our plans and God’s will collide! However, when things seems to go haywire and fall apart, something greater is coming together! Disappointments keeps us from settling! Think about it! You would be content with being average, had God not allowed that monkey ranch to be thrown into your world. You are at your full potential, because of the spilled milk! Your faith has grown, because you’ve experienced loss. You don’t make the same foolish mistakes you’ve made in the past, because you’ve learned from it!

So when you get cow dung instead of a wedding cake, or a packed belly instead of a six pack, don’t feel sorry for yourself! Clean the mess up, work some things out! That spilled milk didn’t happen to discourage you! It was a plan to maximize your faith! The triumph is worth the tragedy ❣️


Romans 8:28

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.