Pray before you speak in anger. If you be still and allow God to move on your behalf, you’ll be amazed by how God chooses to bless you. The person you may be impatient with could be the person who shows you the kindness and compassion you need to smile again. That petty issue that you’re upset about, could be a misunderstanding, and if you remain humble for God, and listen to His voice, something beautiful can be birthed from you not giving in to your anger. It’s easy to feel and give into those feelings, whether they’re justified or not, but don’t act out of feelings alone.

Respond with truth and respond in love. Sometimes we must be silent, in order to hear God clearly. So, quiet those thoughts, words, anxieties, and learn to be still. You may help lead someone to Christ, or the person you’re upset with could have a powerful testimony you need, or you may have the patience and gentle spirit they need to get inspired and put things into proper perspective.

Everything happens for a reason. You may not know that when a situation arises that you can’t make sense out of, but know this, you will be surprised at how God moves in your life when you don’t react in anger, when you stay patient, and when you remain humble. Doing these things allows you to put yourself and your feelings aside, and allow God to not only fight on your behalf, but allow His glory to shine on you. I challenge you to be at peace the next time you want to act in anger, and watch the good that comes out of the situation. You can’t go wrong when you choose to fight the right way.

What’s the right way to fight when you’re triggered? You fight by being still. How to be still? By not giving into your anger. Don’t allow anger to control you. Control it, by letting letting it go, and allowing our Awesome God to fight for you!

Ephesians 4:26 (GNT)

“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.”

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Ephesians 4:26-27

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.

Anger is a natural human emotion, it’s not a sin to be angry, but what we choose to do with our anger can cause us to sin if we aren’t careful. I’ve had past experiences where I’ve responded in anger and later on in life it came back to bite me on my behind. Why? Because there are some things I did and said that I can never take back, and I’ve found that oftentimes our words can hurt others more than our actions can. It’s necessary to assess the situation and get a clear understanding first or we could make things much harder for ourselves when it could have easily worked to our advantage.

When we are angry it’s important to look at things from God’s point of view because if we don’t, we might go upside someone’s head, or we might say something hurtful or negative that will play over and over again in their heads and cause that person to be depressed, emotionally dead, or something worse. I know people who have a hard time believing that they can be great, because someone told them they couldn’t or that they’d never amount to anything, and those words stuck with them so they don’t even try! I also know individuals who were wronged by someone they love so they believe everyone else is out to wrong them. So, we just need to be careful, especially as children of God to practice meekness, and to follow the golden rule.
If a loved one or anyone makes you angry, take some time to cool off, preferably away from them, for your sake and theirs. You can do this by taking a walk. Walk and talk to God. Remember to breathe! Don’t allow anyone to run your blood pressure up and stress you out. You can’t be worried about what people say or do! We have no control over that! That’s between them and God, however, we can control our response. Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” You see, we can say just about anything and get away with it, IF it’s said the right way! Remember to always respond with grace, and not vengeance. Leave that to God. Allow the Spirit of God to do the talking for you. It will save you from a world of trouble.

Remember to be humble. Not for people’s sake, but because you want to hear from God, and we also want to walk in obedience to Him! Sometimes, you have to hold your tongue! If this is hard for you, I feel you. I’ve been there and done that! But I’ve learned that silence speaks volumes in a lot of situations. Yes, there are things that needs to be addressed immediately, but if you do it while you’re angry, it’s useless because you can’t think clearly when you’re angry and you can’t solve anything if all you’re doing is yelling, screaming, cursing and making threats. No one can hear you that way!

Remember, when someone makes you angry to the point of which you feel like you want to hurt them, whether it be with words or actions, 🛑 STOP, and give it to God. Say, “Here Lord, you can have that, because I can’t.” Be real with God! Listen, some battles aren’t meant for you to fight standing up. Some battles are meant for you to fight on your knees. Be still. Let God fight for you and through you. 👊🏾🙌🏾 Blessings. ❤️

The Bible tells us, in Proverbs 4:7, “Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding.”
Some people are quick to fly off the handle, when asking a simple question or listening before reacting in anger, could easily help them understand. A person who’s quick to react in anger, without having an understanding or knowledge in regards to what they’re angry about, is both a danger to themselves and others. They’re dangerous to themselves because they lack self control. The only voice they hear and listen to (because there’s a difference) is their own. An easily angered person is the type of person that always think they’re right and other people are wrong, if they don’t agree or submit to them. They’re the type of individuals that say, “It’s my way or the highway.” If you give way to anger, and it’s not righteous or your anger is solely based on how you feel with complete disregard to other people’s feelings or point of view, then your anger isn’t justified. If your voice is the only voice that’s ever right, then you’re wrong. Mr. or Ms. “Know it all”, really knows nothing. Come out of your own understanding, folks. If you’re going to be angry, make sure your anger is based on facts and not assumptions. An individual who’s easily angered lacks self control, and a person without self control leaves an open door for the enemy to come in and out of their lives and do what he wants to. Negativity is always present when dealing with an angry person. Especially one who’s easily angered. It’s always chaos and no peace. No peace within themselves, and no peace for people around them. These individuals need to seek professional help, and I’m not being funny or petty, I’m being serious. If you’re angry all the time, you need to talk to a professional, to find out why. If you know why, then you need to release it, if you have no control over the situation. Give it to God. Let Jesus fix it. Staying angry keeps you powerless and under the control of whatever or whoever has angered you. If you want to be free, at peace and victorious, get some understanding and also, learn how to respond without yelling, cursing, having fits of rage; emotionally abusing others, fighting, or needing to have the final word. Only people with small minds, feel big when doing those things. Get out of your feelings. Listen more, talk less. Stop being defensive and apply wisdom. James 1:19-20, “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” *** Thanks for reading! Be sure to subscribe and listen to my blog by clicking the link below. ❤️ Thank you! 🙏🏾

Comparison cripples purpose. I’m going to say it again for the people in the back… 🗣🗣🗣COMPARISON CRIPPLES PURPOSE! If a person is too busy comparing someone’s else’s strengths to their personal weaknesses, how is the scale balanced? If a person is too busy dissecting someone else’s life, how can they get their own life together or walk in their God given purpose?

Oftentimes when we compare our life to others, we do it on an unbalanced scale. For instance: Jill is a natural born singer. She practically came out of the womb singing and has been in talent competitions since she was two years old, later it gained her a decent following base on social media, and now that she’s 18, she has a record deal and it appears as though she’s living the life. Kara is also a natural born singer who has been in talent competitions since the age two. She was also a baby model, and as she grew she became a promotional model for commercials, and by six, she had a regular role in a television series.

Kara is now 18, and is known all over the world for her singing and acting roles. If Jill compared her life to Kara’s, instead of counting her blessings, she’d see that they both have the same talent, but she’d wonder why things worked out better for Kara, when she’s been working just as hard. She’d wonder why it took her eighteen years to get a record deal, and Kara got her first gig at the age two. Jill wouldn’t be comparing their lives on a balanced scale, because although they both can sing, Kara’s also an actor, and because of the early exposure to the entertainment industry that she’d had as a baby, it has gained her much success. Kara also worked hard for her success, and it cost her years of childhood that she couldn’t enjoy.

Jill on the other hand, had a fulfilling childhood, and also worked hard to compete in talent shows, but she didn’t have the same exposure as Kara. It took her longer to get discovered. From a pessimist point of view, they’d only see that Kara has it made, and that they’ve worked hard all these years and don’t have anything compared to what Kara has. They’d look at Kara’s house, salary, and other material things and get depressed. An optimist on the other hand would first count their blessings, instead of compare.

They’d understand that life is meant to be a journey, and not a competition. They’d be thankful that their hard work is paying off, even if it took longer than it takes others. They’d understand Ecclesiastes 9:11 which says, “I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all.” In other words, this scripture is saying just because you’re the best at something, it doesn’t mean you’ll be in a high position or attain success quickly. Life happens! 🤷🏾‍♀️

The story above is just an analogy, because sometimes it’s not what a person knows, it’s who they know, but the same principle applies. You really don’t know the sacrifice. Oftentimes we see a person’s glory, without knowing their story. I believe that if we had a peep into some of the people’s lives that we compare our lives to, we’d thank God more for what we have and complain less about what we don’t. You don’t have what it takes to live their life, because it’s THEIR LIFE (journey) to live, not yours, and vice versa.

We all have a price to pay for the life we want, whether we have to give up something to make room for something else, or even give up someone, who’s been holding us back from becoming who we’re meant to be. Becoming oneself takes sacrifice! Comparing your journey to others will only upset and depress you! You don’t know what a person had to sacrifice to become who they are, so count your blessings, focus on your strengths, and know your true value. I can guarantee you that you’ll be much happier with who you are, and where you are in life if you do these things.

Lastly, don’t let things be your goal. The real goal is Heaven! Be blessed. ❤️

Oh, the irony of anger. Have you ever heard the phrase, “It’s a thin line between love and hate?” How about this phrase, “He who angers you controls you?” When someone ticks you off, you’re angry because you feel like they owe you something, preferably an apology. Basically, you just want the person to right their wrongs.

What if the person never apologizes? Should you just forgive and forget? The short answer is yes. Peter asked Jesus how many times should he forgive someone who wronged him? He then asked Jesus should he forgive seven times? 

Jesus said seventy times seven (see Matthew 18:21-22). In other words, Jesus was telling Peter to always forgive. Forgiving someone for doing you wrong sets you free. The longer you’re angry, the tighter the clench becomes. The clench that keeps offense in your grip.

You want to know what else is in that clench, the person who offended you! You may think you’re done with this person, but truth is, as long as you’re holding on to what they did, you’re not done with them. In order to heal from the hurt of your past, you have to let go! Another truth is, you won’t let go of the offense because you refuse to let go of the person… you still love them.

What if I told you that it’s possible to love someone for life, without them actually being in your life? It’s the truth. Sometimes it’s best to love from a distance. Especially in situations where being with or around this person robs you of your peace. There are some instances where distance isn’t an option, and so you really have to forgive quickly and learn to protect your peace.

One way to protect your peace is to humble yourself. You’re not doing it to please people, you’re doing it for God, and realizing this makes biting your tongue a lot less painful. James 4:10, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” Letting go and letting God feels better than the temporary satisfaction of revenge. Deuteronomy 32:35, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay.”

Let God deal with people and most importantly, allow Him to deal with you! Loosen that clench you’ve been holding on to, and allow Him to work on and through you! The process may hurt sometimes, and it isn’t always going to be pretty, but if you trust God with the ugly, He can create something beautiful! There is purpose in your pain! If you enjoyed this message, click the link below to receive your copy of my book, “Betrayed with a kiss.”

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