Ahhh the good old days when people threw rice instead of throwing shade. One of the good days is definitely that first walk as husband and wife. Not to mention the honey moon. Good stuff. I don’t think that too many of us really ponder the bad and the ugly. It’s easy to get through the bad by being the bigger person and apologizing during the first argument or overlooking the fact that your significant other never cleans up after themselves and forgiving them for being late for dinner after you’ve stood over a hot stove for hours preparing their favorite meal, only for them to come home and go straight to bed. The real kicker is the UGLY! U.G.L.Y. you don’t have an alibi ย you ugly! Yeah, yeah you ugly! (I can hear the cheerleaders screaming this loud and clear) How do you handle the situation when there’s not an alibi and you have to face the ugly? Truth that is… You are fighting for your marriage alone. It has gotten so bad that your spouse rarely comes home because they’re too busy gambling the bill money away. He or she has a drug addiction and spent the rent money getting high. They’ve cheated and you’ve cheated, trust is broken along with hearts.You try to communicate but it just goes in one ear and out the other. You can’t get an alibi so you’ll take alimony instead. It’s so much easier to give up than to remember those vows. Proverbs 14:1 says “A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands”. That is something to think about… Sometimes building our home means going the extra mile when your spouse gives up. Sometimes building our home means getting on our knees and praying for your spouse soul even when they’ve done the unthinkable. Sometimes building our home means we have to love unconditionally and forgive constantly like God forgives us. Sometimes building our home means running to our significant other’s ย rescue when we’d rather run them over.๐Ÿš™๐Ÿš’๐Ÿšจ๐Ÿš” ย Sometimes we have to stand alone and lift up holy hands to pray although lifting our hands to grab that cast iron skillet to knock some sense into them is very tempting. The ugly is a hard pill to swallow but we have to do it. Don’t fight fire with fire and tear down your home. Fight fire with faith and prayer until the ugly is gone. It’s not easy but it’s worth it.

It’s amazing how something so small can have such a large impact. Most of us go about our day saying things and not realizing what we are releasing into our atmosphere. Have you ever talked to someone that has low self esteem? They will tell you that most of the time it’s because of what someone said to them. “You are ugly, good for nothing, you will never be good enough.” Such harsh words that carries a big impact. Those words are released into the air and they become strongholds on that person’s life. Sooner or later those people believe those words and their life reflects it. I personally know someone who will never lose an argument. Even if you have a valid point that person will end the argument like the cartoon picture above and leave you scratching your head like “what?”. James 3 tells us exactly how untamable our tongue can be.. ย  ย I have to pray a lot when it comes to this untamable thing. I haven’t mastered being slow to speak amongst other things but with the help of our Lord I will. Let’s start to build each other up instead of tearing each other down. ๐Ÿ™‚ Watch what happens! If we could just love on each other and speak life into each other then our lives would be that much more peaceful and joyous. ๐Ÿ’ž

The book of Ruth shows us first hand how being faithful over a few can make us rulers over many. Ruth was faithful to her mother n law Naomi even after losing her husband. When Naomi begin her journey back to Judah, Ruth was determined to go with her even when Naomi protested. Ruth left the Moabite people behind along with the gods that they served and declared that she would serve our one true God. Ruth was faithful and worked diligently in the fields daily picking up stalks and grain that was left behind. Boaz noticed her and decided that she would work in his field. There was even times that he created work for her. (I’m sure that all kind of women were furious but you can’t be mad at God’s favor.) To make a long story short this rich man Boaz married this poor humble woman who didn’t think that she was too good to pick up straw left behind in the fields. She was faithful over the few and God saw it. There are some of us who refuse to go out and pick up straw. (Work at a fast food place or clean the restrooms at a hospital or housekeeping at a hotel etc.) Some would rather sleep with Tom, Dick and Harry for money to see how far they will get whether it’s in the streets or in a business. Some would rather get their money on a stage dancing butt naked for all to see because they refuse to be humiliated by working in the fields picking up straps. You have to be careful of what you want and how you present yourself. Anybody can throw you a dollar and call you their ho but a real man is going to see the real you when you are at your lowest. He is going to admire your hard work and your humility and your love and faithfulness to God and your family and he is going to make you his queen because you proved yourself different than most. To make a long story short Ruth was the great grandmother of David and we all know how great King David was! God has a blessing on your life and not only yours but your descendants! You may have to be humble and prove to God that you are faithful over picking up straw before you get your own company. Don’t rush it and don’t sell yourself short trying to trick a man out of his money. Be diligent and work hard and the right man will find you.

Have you ever met someone that is full of wishes but no faith? They’ll sound something like this, “I wish my husband would be more like that, I wish my yard was as big as theirs or I wish my job was as easy as yours.” Full of wishes… But no faith… You have to be careful of what you speak into the atmosphere. There is a reason that you don’t have what the next person has. God has given you grace for what you are able to handle. Don’t be envious of what others have because you don’t know what shoes they had to walk in to get to where they are. It bothers me when religious people treat God as if he’s a genie ready to give them what they want at their command. Then they get mad at him when he doesn’t do it right away and so they lose hope. He is GOD! The great IAM! When he decides that you are ready to have what you are asking for then you will get it. God is a spirit and those who worship him must do it in spirit and in truth. Being religious will get you no where…. Why would he give you a mansion when you are not even faithful with your apartment. It’s time to stop being religious and develop a RELATIONSHIP with God. You have to be careful what you wish for because other spirits (not of God) are listening as well and if you aren’t careful they will deceive you by giving you exactly what you wished for and bamboozle you into thinking that what you received was of God but in fact it is a scheme of the enemy. Trust you me that eventually you will pay the price for whatever it is you have allowed those spirits to place in your life. It might look good and feel good but in the end it’s not worth it. Why do you think there’s so many miserable rich people? They have everything the world has to offer except the one who offered himself for the world! Enough of treating God like a genie in a bottle and only talking to him when you need something. We as children of God must walk by faith and not by sight and remember that faith without works is dead. (James 2:17) If you want more then do better. God has equipped us with everything good thing that we need.

I woke up this morning and after partaking in a powerful prayer I am believing God for something supernatural particularly in my career and financial areas. I’m believing God for something so big that everyone will know that God has his hands in it. “Today is going to be a good day,” I declared it! It wasn’t even an hour when I was notified by my bank that a withdrawal was made from my checking account that I did not authorize. I already knew supernaturally what was going on… For a few minutes I lost focus. That quick. I was only looking in the natural and I begin to go back and forth with my bank and the company that took money out of my account. Somebody was putting my money back! The company said that it could take 30 days before I see a refund. ๐Ÿ˜ก “You mean to tell me it took you all of one second to charge my account without my permission but it takes up to 30 days before you can give it back?” I had to remind myself again what was happening supernaturally. I had prayed and am believing God for something so big that the enemy is trying to distract me. It’s so easy to get side tracked even when we know what is going on. I still don’t know the exact day that I’ll get my money back but I prayed and I know that I will get it back. Besides that money is only small change compared to the overflow that I’m coming into. If you seem to be constantly under attack like me then I have two words for you. “Stay Focused!” You are headed in the right direction. These distractions are only that… Distractions… Stay focused and if you do slip and fall don’t give up because what God has for you, no devil in hell can stop.

What is life? Many people have pondered this question. Not many have discovered the answer. Although it is a lot like a football game, it is definitely not a game. In life we are the running back and the football we hold is everything that we hold onto on a daily basis, whether it’s our career, family, finances, sanity, love, happiness, burdeneds…. These things are hard to manage by ourselves. It can get pretty ruff out here in this field of life so we must suit up! Ephesians 6:11 Put on the whole armor of God so that you may be able to stand against the devil schemes. I believe we can play either offense or defense depending on how you look at the game. If you look at life as if you’re trying to reach your goal but you have to fight through many obstacles to get there then you are on the offense. If you look at life as if you will do everything in your power to keep the enemy from scoring any person (deceiving them), including yourself then you are on the offense! Either way we are on the same team just playing different positions. All of us should be looking out for one another but I believe the person that does it the most is the ones God has designated as our Shepherds and overseers. I’d like to think of God as our coach. He is ultimately in charge of our team. When Jesus ascended into heaven he left us his Holy Spirit, the ย quarterback because he has given us everything we need to run this game of life. He passes us the ball and we are the running back at that point. We can run with faith until the end knowing that Jesus is with and within us and the good news is that when feel overwhelmed and make the mistake of forgetting that he is with us, we can go to him and give him the ball… Jesus (the receiver), who wore all our burdens on the cross and won the victory for us over 2000 years ago! Isn’t this exciting! He touchdown for us even before we were formed in our mothers womb! If only we could see that God has set in place Angels who play the position of our defense tackle, linebackers etc. You get my drift. Let me just say that I am reading football for dummies as I’m typing this because I don’t watch football enough to know this stuff. Anyways I just wanted to give you all something to think about today before we all gather with family and friends to watch the game. Happy Super Bowl 50!

There is nothing more frustrating than being locked out… Today I experienced this frustration first hand and what made it even more frustrating was that I had the key in my hand. The key had no problem sliding into the door but it was very stubborn when it came to turning and unlocking.”Lord I trust that you are going to open this door and we won’t have to call a lock smith.” We started searching for things to help us open the locked door like a credit card and I was even pondering would the bottom of my bath and body works lotion be strong enough to slide in the crack of the door and unlock it. ๐Ÿ˜‘ I didn’t have much to work with in my purse. When I first got the key (about two months ago) we tested it to make sure that it would work and it was fine. My mom looked in the truck to see if there was any WD40 but it wasn’t any so…. She used the next best thing she had found in the truck…Cutter (Insect Repellent)…. ๐Ÿ˜„ Ok maybe it wasn’t the next best thing but hey we gave it a shot, or a spray! ๐Ÿ˜ That’s right she sprayed the key that was lodged inside the door with Cutter and then with all her might she turned the key and said “You might break but I’m gonna give it all I’ve got.” And with faith and a little more effort the door was opened. ๐Ÿ˜Š This reminded me that sometimes in life you can have what YOU think is the right key (success, friends, money, material things) and that may work for you for a little while but, there comes a time in life when what we have become complacent with will no longer work for us and at that moment we will begin to search for another way of fulfillment. Something’s in life comes with keys to get you to where you need to be but most things come by faith. (Read Hebrews 11) The good news is that with Christ all things are possible. He can use anything and anybody! There will be times that you have nothing but your faith and you will have to push harder to get through life. This will make you wiser and stronger. There is an old saying that “it’s not what you know but who you know.” Do you know him? ๐Ÿ™‚

We currently have a black Tetra in our fish aquarium. We’ve had “Fiesty” for about two years now. I remember when I bought Fiesty, this fish was always a fighter from the beginning. It appeared that as I was holding the bag, he was trying to run into my hand as if he was fighting to get out. Even on the way home he kept swimming into my cousin’s hand and her lap in a way as if he was hitting her. It was weird you probably would have had to see it to believe it but because of the fight in this fish I named him Fiesty. I bought four other fish for my daughters and they all named their fish as well. Whenever my kids would observe the fish it appeared that Fiesty was bullying the other fish by eating most of the food and chasing the other fish around. Not long after the other fish begin to die quickly. Soon there was only Fiesty and another fish. I seen for myself how Fiesty would come to the top and eat the food and the other fish would try to come and eat but Fiesty would chase the fish away. I remember one time we had to go out of town and we had to leave the fish unattended for a week. I thought about them everyday and hoped that they wouldn’t die. We were excited to get home and see that they were alive and well. After a while the other fish died… I bought three more fish and one of them was being chased day and night by another fish and I guess it got tired of living in agony so it died as well as another. My kids became frustrated with Fiesty and blamed him for all of our fish dying. I told them to leave him alone because he is a survivor and if he has came this far then he deserves to live. Today my mother and I was talking about the Lord and she referred to my fish in an analogy of how God looks at us. He looks past our faults and short comings and he still takes care of us. The same as I do with our fish. Although Fiesty is a bully I don’t look at what is obvious, I look at what he really is and that’s a survivor. God looks at us as MORE THAN CONQUERORS! Plenty of fish has come and gone but he is still here, he is not perfect but he depends on me to buy food for him, feed him and clean his fish tank. Even when I was gone for a week he didn’t give up and die, he held on. The same with us. Sometimes we wonder, “Lord where are you?” But he is right there. We just have to keep trusting and believing. Just like I was constantly thinking of my fish when I was out of town, God is always thinking of us!๐Ÿ™‚ “The race is not given to the swift but to he who endures until the end.” โฌ…๏ธ Ecclesiastes 9:11. Keep the faith my brothers and sisters. Don’t be like some of my fish that gave up too quickly because they were tortured by their circumstances. Sometimes you may even stand alone but remember Ecclesiates 9:11. Don’t look at what is visible to the eye of man because God sees so much more in you!๐Ÿ˜Š Your current situation is NOT your final destination!๐Ÿ’• Love you all.

To some it can be music to our ears, to some it can be a dreadful day and to others a piece of cake. No matter how we look at it we all prepare for that day, some people do it better than others. But this interview is different from the typical interview that you may be thinking of. This could be an interview of a lifetime. I’m talking about the dreadful “Dating” interview. I’ve compared these two things because they’re really more alike than different. Think about it. To get a job some people just fill out applications any and everywhere as long as they can get some money coming in. (In the dating world these people aren’t picky. As long as they can get their money๐Ÿ˜‰, honey or whatever you want to call it๐Ÿ˜Ž. Others go for what they want and they build their resumes, practice the interview BEFORE the interview and when they apply for the job that they want, the employers will see that the person stands out from the rest. (These people know what they want and are going for just that) These type of people will not settle. It will take a lot more than a few dollars here and there for these people. These people are interested in where the company is going (potential mate), 401K plans (long term benefits and personal goals), and is this a seasonal (cuddle season boo thang), temporary (rebound fling), part time (“I only call you when it’s half pass five.” In my Weekend voice. Some people may even refer to the other person as their “friend.” The benefits suck most of the time. The money may be ok. ๐Ÿ˜œ) or full time position (you are looking for someone with the same mindset that you have, career minded, stability, family oriented, faith, beliefs, etc.. Oh the money a very important factor too… VERY) You get my drift. Most of the time we get the interview before we realize because in the dating world our first impression is our interview. ๐Ÿ™†๐Ÿพ That’s why you have to be on point at all times because you are what you attract. ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿ˜‘ So if you’re tired of just getting your feet in the door (settling for less than what you deserve) and thinking with time you can make the person better, News Flash, you can’t. No one can make themselves better but that person alone and with the help of God of course. God doesn’t even MAKE ย us be what we don’t want to be…. Don’t be stuck in a situation that you can’t get out of just because you’re scared to be alone. Love yourself and others will follow your lead. Never compromise who you are. Don’t be a side chick with wife goals and 20 years down the line the only thing that you have to show for the relationship is that you went from side chick to baby mama number 3. You’re still lost and don’t know if that was a promotion or a downsize๐Ÿค”. Be smart. No one is perfect but you can get what you want if you’re patient and consistent. You may have to compromise but never settle. ๐Ÿ™‚

I love watching the sunset whether I’m driving home from a busy day, sitting on the patio getting some peace of mind or sharing the view at the beach with loved ones. The sunset always reminds me to take time to find the beauty in life. The most beautiful things in life can’t be bought, God gave it to us for free. I marvel at all of his creation from the sand on the beach to the birds in the air. He said it best in Genesis. “It was very good.” Watching the sunset is one of the very good things that I love about life. Watching it is like a reward to me. No matter how my day has been or what I am going through, it makes me appreciate the priceless things in life like the gift of life, love, family, nature and peace of mind. Watching the sunset is my mini getaway/vacation and although I may gaze upon it for a brief moment, I’m completely captured in time.