“Lord, why can’t you make it easier?” This is the question I asked God today, and He immediately replied, “Why can’t you trust me?” I hate going through, and currently that’s exactly what I’m doing… GOING THROUGH! It seems like my faith is constantly being tested, and I’m just going to keep it real, a lot of times I literally freak out when I believe for God to come through one way, and He doesn’t. Just as I was typing the previous sentence, He came through in a way that said, “Everything will be okay.”

He didn’t come through my way, but He came through His way. He didn’t come through in my timing, nevertheless, He was right on time. You see, if it was up to me, I’d never have any issues. I’d never have days that I cried, or felt lonely, hurt or afraid. Life would be smooth sailing. Instead this is what my life feels like…

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Yeah, I’m the man who got kicked in water… As if getting kicked in the butt with two feet isn’t enough. 😒

Jesus be a life guard, a life jacket and a rescue boat, because truth is I’m tired! I feel exactly how the disciples felt when Jesus was asleep on the boat, and the wind and waves came and tossed the boat about and they woke Jesus up saying, “Lord! Save us! We’re going to die!” I know that He is with me, but I don’t like being uncomfortable. I don’t like when the storms of life comes raging.

I’m going to keep it one hundred… I’m the bratty child of God. I want him to always tell me yes and I always want him to give me what I want. 🤷🏾‍♀️ But like a good good Father, He doesn’t always say yes, and He doesn’t always give me what I want.

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You know why, because if He did, there wouldn’t be a need for faith. It would be too easy for us as people. We’d forget about what God has done and begin to think we’ve accomplished everything we have in life, on our own. We wouldn’t be appreciative. We’d think it’s what He supposed to do.

But His grace is sufficient ( 2 Corinthians 12:9), and it keeps me humble. I know one hundred percent that on my own, I don’t deserve any of the blessings He’s given me. So, why do I throw a temper tantrum when He doesn’t come through like I want Him to? Because I become afraid and anxious. I encourage thousands of people across the U.S. everyday, but that doesn’t mean I’m not human.

I experience the same things that everyone else  experience. 1 Peter 5:9 (NLT) “Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.“ I fall short and spiritually, I’m pretty sure that I fall out like a two year old having a fit when his or her parent takes something from them or tells them no.  I know God probably be like, I can’t take you no where child! 🤦🏾‍♀️

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Which is probably why I keep going through the same type of test. I know He’s trying to strengthen my faith, because He literally can’t take me anywhere if I let every obstacle that I face, get me upset. Now don’t get me wrong. I’m only upset for a second, and then the Holy Spirit gets me in check, but I believe God wants me to be more consistent in my faith. When my situation looks impossible, instead of getting upset, He wants me to pray for wisdom and direction.

He wants me to trust Him that He already knew I’d face that obstacle, but He wants me to believe, and I do. I just have to learn to stop making things that I go through all about me, and learn to ask Him, “God, what do you require of me?” Hopefully I ace this test soon, because I’m tired of taking it. I know that once I past this test, there will be another one that I need to pass, but once I pass this one, I will have the wisdom to know how to deal with the next one. Thank God for Jesus, because I’m a hot mess with Him, so there’s no telling what or where I’d be without Him.

If you are going through like I am, repeating the same tests, and it feels like you’re stuck. I want you to know that God is only trying to strengthen our faith and teach you to exercise patience. The thing about strengthening one’s faith is, or learning patience is, you must be tested. 🤷🏾‍♀️ There’s no way around it. But we can do this, be encouraged! Romans 5:4, “And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation.”

I know it’s frustrating not knowing what God’s going to do in your personal situation. The anxiety is real when facing the unknown. But it’s okay not to know, because He knows what’s best, even if we throw a fit! Sometimes we believe too small, so He allows us to face a challenge, so that our faith becomes bigger, bolder, brighter! You’re not really believing God, when you can clearly see a way.

Faith isn’t about everything going good and having everything under your control. Real faith is not seeing a way, but believing God will make a way. Real faith facing situations that’s out of your control but believing no matter what God is in control. Real faith is believing God can, but even if He doesn’t, you continue to trust Him anyway. Real faith is believing that God knows and wants what’s best for you even when He tells you no or doesn’t come through like you expected Him to.

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Selfishness will keep you from what the blessed flowing hand of God is trying to do through you. You can’t receive with your fists clenched! You may think you’re keeping something to yourself but you’re really missing out on something greater! You can’t see things from God’s perspective if you’re in your feelings, and you can’t be a light if you refuse to let others shine. Be generous, regardless of other people’s actions and always have a mind of Christ.

Philippians 2:3-11 (NIV)

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death– even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

Listen my good people; it’s not about us! It’s about Jesus! Let’s follow His example. Let’s focus on our purpose more than we focus on who’s out to get us, or who don’t like us, or who treated us badly or how we’re at a disadvantage. We are not at a disadvantage if the Holy Spirit dwells within us!

Don’t you know that if God’s Spirit lives in you, it is also at work in you? Don’t make life all about your feelings, or how you can come up, or building a wall around your heart so others won’t hurt you! In order to accomplish what God has put inside of you, you have to think of other people’s feelings. You have to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. You have to take a chance and be vulnerable. 61A93ED2-548F-496D-A561-8AED94A22E08

You have to be humble when someone is rude to you! We are not operating in our purpose to get a reward from people! We are doing it as a response to God, and because we know that our real reward is in Heaven! So unclench your fists, share the spotlight, love unconditionally and don’t be afraid to take a leap of faith! Just as our Father exalted Christ, He will also exalt you!

1 Peter 5:6 (ESV)

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you.”

You don’t have to transform into someone you’re not, just to be you! When God created you, He gifted you with everything you need in order to accomplish the purpose in which He created you! Be inspired, but don’t feel like you have to copy others in order to be successful, liked or popular. If you’re ever faced with a choice of doing what’s popular and doing what’s right, go with the latter. What’s popular updates faster than a Facebook post.

Don’t tie your worth to social media. There are people who get thousands of likes from others, and they do not even like themselves! People can be whoever they want to be in front of a camera. Make sure that you’re not just putting on a front for the world. Love who you are, without the need for people to tell you who you should be. 

Embrace your uniqueness! Love your imperfections! Everything about you is what makes you, you! Don’t feel the need to be like the majority in order to be accepted. God created you the way that He did for a reason. 

Use your uniqueness to make a positive difference in your life and the lives of others. Don’t waste your life coveting someone else’s gift, or looks, or even their life. All too often, people covet other people’s glory without knowing their story. We all have our own journey. A part of your journey should be about self discovery.

Find out who you are. Love who you are. Embrace your uniqueness. Share your gift, your light and your love. This is what life is really about!

It’s time out for following trends to a dead end. It’s time out for killing yourself to be like someone else. Celebrate who you are. You don’t need a round of applause from an audience in order to pat yourself on the back! You’ve accomplished much!

You’re still here seeking God first, winning at life, walking in your purpose, sharing your love, making a difference, being a helping hand, following your dreams and fulfilling your destiny, in Jesus name! 

My dear!… You have something to celebrate! 😇

No one likes to be used. Especially, if they’re aware of it. Two of the very first reactions a person feels when their love or kindness is being misused, is hurt and anger. Those two feelings can cause that person to shut down and shut people out or seek revenge. Matthew 5:39, “But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.”

Listen, Jesus isn’t telling you to go around letting people beat you up, or even use you! This scripture is more about not taking revenge on a person who has used you, or is using you. Hurt and anger can cloud your judgement and cause you to react outside of the will of God. God wants us to be more like Him! Think about how imperfect we are, but we still expect God to bless us regardless, and He does!

Not because of who we are, but because of who He is! He wants us to be the same way! Be good to others, not because they deserve it, but because God allowed you to be a blessing in that person’s life. Another scripture that’s important to remember here is, Luke 6:35 (CSB), “But love your enemies, do what is good, and lend, expecting nothing in return. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High.

For he is gracious to the ungrateful and evil.” If you are only doing good to receive goodness from others, then you have the wrong motives, and your goodness isn’t coming from a genuine place, it’s coming from a selfish place. God wants us to be unbothered by other people’s actions towards us, because that’s what true character is! If what people do to you, sways you, then you will be in and out of character your whole life. God wants us to be secure in Him, so that we are stable at all times.

Be kind, give to the undeserving and love without limits. Don’t be foolish, and believe that because you’re good to everyone, everyone will be good to you in return. That’s naive. Be good to others, and use godly discernment so that you know who you’re dealing with. Don’t go around with a sign on your back that says, “Use me!”

This is not what Jesus is talking about. He wants us to follow His example and be good to others regardless of their motives towards us, and He wants us to leave vengeance to Him! Deuteronomy 32:35 (b), “It is mine to avenge; I will repay.” Being good to others without placing an expectation on them, is both wise and mature. It’s not about us and our feelings, it’s about Jesus, and benevolently sharing the gift that God has put inside of each and every one of us! ❤️

Let me just say that the rough spot you’re in, is not where you’ll always be. Look to Jesus. The Word of God tells us that Jesus is the author and finisher of our faith (read Hebrews 12:2). With that being said, this is not your usual love story, which you may have heard of a thousand times. This love story isn’t worded into a perfect painting of what real love looks like.

It shows some of the ugly truths that many have yet to deal with personally, and therefore is crippling their ability to have a healthy loving relationship.  This story also tells of God’s unconditional love for us, and how if you come to God as you are, He will meet you where you are. My prayer is that you read this story with an open mind, and allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you and give you a fresh perspective on what it means to love, be loved by others but most importantly what it’s like to be loved by GOD! Enjoy!

Tasha was what men would call the epitome of a bad chick. Her measurements were 36, 24, 36, all of which were hers. She had naturally wavy hair that flowed down her back, and flawless sun kissed skin. She knew that she was a baddie too, and she used the way that men perceived her, to her advantage. Every guy she encountered wanted to have her in their lives. 

They wanted to show her off like a trophy to their friends and the world. They didn’t care if it took the last dime out of their bank account to keep her around, because having her around made them feel like they had something that everyone else coveted, but couldn’t have. Truth is, Tasha had been around the block and a few states, a few times, yet and still no man she’d ever been with was able to capture her heart. She was cold, and played the game the same way the men she dated played it. They bought her things and showed her off, but they never showed her love. 

It was always about them and never her. That made her feel lonely and cold, and although the men she knew dropped bands on her everyday, she felt worthless. One day she met a guy named Trent, who was a rapper, and had heard about her, and wanted her to model in his video. Trent was very charming, but he wasn’t a chaser like the other men Tasha had previously dated. Trent kept things between him and Tasha professional, although he had other motives. The fact that he wasn’t falling all over Tasha like other guys, made her fall for him. 

Eventually they started dating, but Trent never allowed himself to get close to Tasha, because he knew that from what guys told him about her, that she was all about the Benjamin’s and never love. Trent didn’t need Tasha like the other dudes, and for some reason that’s what made her fall in love with him. She knew that he didn’t need her to boost his ego, or serve as a trophy for the world to admire and envy. They enjoyed each other’s company and he was with her because he wanted to be. Still the relationship was flawed, because Trent went into the relationship by means of deception based on rumors he’d deemed true, without ever really getting to know Tasha, and Tasha was attracted to Trent because he was different from other guys she’d dated, and that was a challenge to her.

She was determined to make him her pawn just as she’d made every other guy she dated. She never expected to fall for him, and he never expected her to fall for him. He was really protecting himself from looking like a sucker, but you can’t experience real love with selfishness and pride in the way. Eventually Tasha began to fill as if the relationship was toxic, because the more she drew close to Trent, the further he pulled away. He thought that it was all just a ploy to make him out to be a fool, but Tasha really loved him. 

Neither of them communicated their inner thoughts to one another, so assumptions played a major part in their relationship coming to an end. These days, communicating how you really feel to someone could leave you heartbroken, lonely and humiliated, all of which neither of them was about to let happen to them. Months went by, and on Trent’s Birthday, Tasha called him. He told her that he was glad that she called and invited her to come out to a venue he had rented out for his Birthday. Tasha agreed to come, and when Trent saw her, he knew that he couldn’t let her walk out of that door at the end of the night, without telling Tasha exactly how he felt. 

You see, he saw Tasha for who she really was, when everyone else only saw her outer beauty. He knew that she was really a good woman, in search of real love, but he was intimidated by who she was or how people perceived her. He knew that she genuinely cared for him, and wasn’t like the hundreds of groupies who only wanted to be apart of his lifestyle and not necessarily his life. Trent put his heart out there and confessed everything, and told Tasha how much he loved her, and needed her in his life, not to serve as an antidote for low self esteem, but he needed her because he truly loved her for who she is. Tasha confessed everything to Trent and after the two of them communicated how they really felt, they decided to make a fresh start.

Tasha thought that she was never worthy of real love until she met Trent. She also thought that because of her lifestyle she wasn’t worthy of God’s love, but after her and Trent reconciled she began to seek God, because she still felt like something was missing. There was a coworker of hers that stripped every Saturday night but went to church every Sunday morning. Her co worker would pray before she went out on the stage every night, and pray for other girls in the club that were going through troubling times. Tasha was curious about God and began to seek Him.

She thought to herself, Jesus comes to the strip club? She and her coworker began to read the Bible together and soon Trent and Tasha began to visit her co worker’s church. It’s been twenty years to date, and had not Tasha met that co worker who introduced her to Christ in a Strip Club, she never would’ve thought God cared about her. The key thing to remember here is that she sought after God. She had what many would call a lavish lifestyle, money, a nice home, fancy cars and a well known boyfriend, but she still felt as if something was missing.

She didn’t let where she was stop her from going to God! She found out that if you truly seek God with your whole heart, God will not only meet you where you are, but He will work wonders in your life. She found out that you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to surrender. Eventually Trent and Tasha were married and her co worker found love and marriage as well. Today the two couples have an outreach ministry where they spread the love of Christ in places, many Christians wouldn’t dare to go… not in public anyway, but God is always watching whether you’re out in the open with what you’re doing or in secret!

The couples now spend their lives letting others know that they are worthy of love, and that God loves them. and They also give relationship advice and counseling to singles, using the wisdom God has given them from things they’d personally experienced on the road to finding real love. I used this story to let someone know, that God loves you where you are. Jesus died and rose for the whole world, and there is no perfect person or people. 

We are in right standing with God, only because of Christ (read  Romans 5:1-11). Not only that, but at your worst, you are loved by God, the same as when you’re at your best. Jesus died for us when we were His enemies. I encourage you to seek God where you are, and if you have someone special in your life, communicate truthfully, don’t allow fear, ego, selfishness and what other people think about you or your spouse, to cause you to lose one of the best gifts God has given us in life… Love. ❤️

So, today I am moved by the Holy Spirit to have a heart to heart with the body of Christ. During this season of my life, I am learning not to give up so easily. Anything worth having is worth the fight, and we as believers need to get it through our minds that we are most certainly in a fight, daily. You see, we are always looking forward to what’s to come. We are always thinking of the day when this great thing happens in our lives, and I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with expectation, but we are naive to believe that the battle stops, when the blessing begins.

For every new level, there is a devil, a challenge, a fight! The enemy’s goal is to keep you from receiving every good thing that God has in store for you, so he will come at you with doubt and fear during your season of waiting and preparation. When you finally receive what you’ve been praying for, he will use the same spirits he used before, doubt and fear to cause you to think that you’re incapable of managing the blessing God gave to you! Listen, did you hear me? God gave the blessing to you! It’s a gift from Him to you! 

Doubt and fear will cause you to use every excuse known to man, to get out of a gift that God has blessed you with. Don’t you know that you were predestined? So, God knew everything about you before He put you in this world! Nothing is impossible for Him. He wants you to know that although the blessing can be overwhelming, in Him you have access to every tool you need to manage what He has given you, like a boss! F8DABEC4-2D9C-4111-A053-C310CD3FD183.gif

Remember, you are ultimately responsible for what you do with your gift! Don’t allow obstacles or the unexpected that you’re experiencing while in possession of the blessing, to cause you to think that receiving your blessing was a mistake. Don’t turn what God intended to be a blessing, into a burden. During your season of waiting and preparing, also prepare for the unexpected. Really challenge yourself. 

Ask yourself, if the worst happens, will I stay committed to what God has entrusted me with? If you can’t fathom the sacrifice, you may not be ready for the blessing… Don’t shoot me, I’m just the messenger. Prepare for what you’re praying for, and be prepared to fight to keep it! 

Luke 12:48(b)

When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required.

Love gave us free will, to choose to love or hate. He gave us the choice to trust him and be obedient to his Word, or to trust our feelings and take matters into our own hands. Whatever path we choose, we can be sure that his love for us is unfailing. Jesus died for us when we were his enemies. He loved us even when we didn’t have it all together. Who wouldn’t want to be a part of a family like that?  He never gives up on us, and his mercy is new every day! Everyday we have a choice to trust the God who created us, or to trust what feels good at the moment. There is no gray area when it comes to being a child of God. Either you belong to him, or you don’t. We all know the consequences of sin, and the final result is death, but Jesus came to reverse the curse. As believers, when we leave this life, we will pass into life everlasting. This walk isn’t forced on us, we chose faith over fear. We choose to live by what we know in our heart, mind and soul, and not what the world tells us makes sense. As for me, I’ve tried him, and I know that God is faithful. I’ve taken matters into my own hands before, and have done things outside of Gid’s will, and I screwed up every time. Thank God for his grace! I finally understand what Paul means in 2 Corinthians 12:9, that his grace is sufficient! I choose to use my free will, to live for God, through Christ, simply because he’s God, and there is NO ONE, like him! His faithfulness doesn’t have anything to do with how many times I fall, and that’s what motivates me to get back up and keep pressing towards the mark, again like Paul! God’s always there for us as his children (that’s favor), and he’s promised he will always be, even until the end of the world! Now who wouldn’t serve a God like that?

When God has predestined you for greatness, no person can block, nor devil can stop, you from reaching the top! Keep soaring my friends!

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Be careful of the words you speak, because like a seed, they’ll take root and grow in a person’s heart and mind. Many people are alive, and yet not living. They’re equivalent to a walking zombie, because of the deadly words that came out of someone else’s mouth. Words can beat a person far worse than physical abuse can, because words destroy a person from the inside, out. So choose your words wisely, and before speaking out of anger, and saying something you’ll regret, just walk away. Your feelings may be hurt for a moment, but deadly words will haunt a person for a lifetime.

Date with a purpose…Date towards marriage…

Know who you are and love yourself first.

 If you don’t know who you are or you are battling with self esteem issues then you will get in your feelings easily and begin to operate off of things that you lack and not necessarily what the other person has shown you.

You will become misled not by what they’ve done or said to you, but by that void that you’ve yet to address in your life. If you don’t love yourself and is not secure in who you are you will confuse flirtation or a nice gesture with love. Oh he always ask me how I’m doing or he comes and gives me a hug everyday, he always notices when I get a new hairstyle, everyday he calls me beautiful. If you operate out of your feelings you will think it’s love. You haven’t sat down with this person and you don’t know if he wants to get married or not, have goals or just winging it, heck you don’t even know his last name but you are taking yourself off the market without a commitment and telling everyone, I love him. You don’t really love him, you love how he make you feel about who you are. When was the last time that you looked in the mirror and said everything is ok or I am beautiful? When is the last time you hugged yourself and embraced you, flaws and all? So many people are broken because they’re moving from relationship to relationship without healing and loving who they are as a person. Take time to get to know you and love you first and then take your time within the relationship and remember to date with purpose.