Pray before you speak in anger. If you be still and allow God to move on your behalf, you’ll be amazed by how God chooses to bless you. The person you may be impatient with could be the person who shows you the kindness and compassion you need to smile again. That petty issue that you’re upset about, could be a misunderstanding, and if you remain humble for God, and listen to His voice, something beautiful can be birthed from you not giving in to your anger. It’s easy to feel and give into those feelings, whether they’re justified or not, but don’t act out of feelings alone.

Respond with truth and respond in love. Sometimes we must be silent, in order to hear God clearly. So, quiet those thoughts, words, anxieties, and learn to be still. You may help lead someone to Christ, or the person you’re upset with could have a powerful testimony you need, or you may have the patience and gentle spirit they need to get inspired and put things into proper perspective.

Everything happens for a reason. You may not know that when a situation arises that you can’t make sense out of, but know this, you will be surprised at how God moves in your life when you don’t react in anger, when you stay patient, and when you remain humble. Doing these things allows you to put yourself and your feelings aside, and allow God to not only fight on your behalf, but allow His glory to shine on you. I challenge you to be at peace the next time you want to act in anger, and watch the good that comes out of the situation. You can’t go wrong when you choose to fight the right way.

What’s the right way to fight when you’re triggered? You fight by being still. How to be still? By not giving into your anger. Don’t allow anger to control you. Control it, by letting letting it go, and allowing our Awesome God to fight for you!

Ephesians 4:26 (GNT)

“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.”

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If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them go! It could be the best thing that ever happened to you. Holding on to the wrong person can keep you from the right one, or even delay your blessings. Let them move out of your way, so that you can see clearly. Sometimes, the very person you’re holding on to is your biggest distraction.

Don’t be a person who tries to make everyone or even one person love you. You can’t make anyone treat you right, love you, or be loyal to you. Accept the fact that a part of growing is accepting the fact that you will grow apart from some people. Some of these people will be friends or family members. Not everyone can go where God is taking you.

So, if they leave, bid them farewell, and continue to keep on keeping on. What God has for you, is for you, whether it’s a relationship, job, healing and wholeness, financial breakthrough, or whatever you need. God is the Source. Everything else is a resource. Depend on no one but God alone, and remember, if God is all you have, you have EVERYTHING, that you need. ❤️

Read my book, “How to let go and let God.”

Some people don’t stay in a relationship out of love, they stay because they’re in fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of starting over. Fear of losing something. Fear of the unknown, or even the future, to name a few.

Love has nothing to do with fear. 1 John 4:18 (GNT) “There is no fear in love; perfect love drives out all fear. So then, love has not been made perfect in anyone who is afraid, because fear has to do with punishment.” If you are being held hostage by your own fears, it’s time to overcome those “what if’s” and those negative thoughts, and replace them with the thoughts God has for you. God has said, “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11

Stop holding on to people who mean you no good, out of fear of who you think you’ll become outside of them. Put your complete faith in God, and know that He got you. Never put a person in the position to be Lord over your life. That position belongs to God. Power belongs to God.

If He can love the real you, so can you. The only way to receive God’s best for you is to let go of what you consider, the best that you can do. Read my book, “How to let go and let God.”

Don’t stress yourself out by thinking about how jacked up this world is, instead focus on how good God is! People may have screwed things up but God is still all powerful and ultimately He is still in control. Put your faith in Him. He can turn things around for you. His Word says, 2 Chronicles 7:14, “If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”
Don’t focus on what you don’t have, because that keeps you distracted and stagnant. Focus on what you do have, God and His Word. His Word that doesn’t return to Him void. His Word that came here on a mission and completely it perfectly. His Word that keeps us when we can’t even keep ourselves.
His Word is alive and active and sharper than a two edged sword. I’m talking about Yeshua, but we call him Jesus. The author and perfector of our faith. The One in which all things were created for and by Him. Stay focused on God through it all my friends, because whatever you don’t have isn’t necessary for you to live.
You lack no good thing. Whatever God has for you is for you. If it’s not for you then stop chasing after it. It is God who equips us with everything we need in this life. So, look to Him and keep your mind stayed on Him!
In Jesus name. Amen. 🙏🏾

When we choose to let go of the things beyond our control, we give God the opportunity to be Lord over our lives. There’s a different kind of freedom and peace that comes with completely releasing those issues of the heart to God and trusting Him to do what only He can in whatever way He chooses. The peace and freedom is not of this world, it surpasses all understanding because only the Spirit of God can give it. God’s spirit becomes our calm within a storm. Our overall wellbeing thanks us for releasing those burdens.

Get to a place of which you completely trust God with your issues, past and present. Some things aren’t meant for you to carry on your own to include the hook of bitterness. When someone holds on to an offense, it hooks them and becomes a snare of destruction. You may think you’re punishing the person who’ve done wrong by you, but you’re really punishing yourself because the longer you hold on to this hook, the heavier it gets. The weight increases because it’s baggage.

It gets in the way of you experiencing the joy and love that you deserves, which adds more and more baggage to that hook.
You may think you’re in control of this hook, but really you’re hooked. You’re hooked on pain because you refuse to let go. The hook of bitterness comes in and robs individuals of life. Instead of living, they’re struggling to survive and they’re doing this the best way they can within their own power, but you don’t have to bear the weight alone when all you have to do is put your trust in the power of God. He can do more with the issues of your heart than you ever could.

Matthew 11:28

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.

Don’t ever give yourself away to the point of which another human being has power over your life. Power over your happiness, your smile, your purpose, your day to day life, or how you interact with family and friends. When you give a person your everything, and make your life revolve around them and only them… you’re making that person your god, and you are putting your life in danger, because if and when that person walks away they are taking every single thing you’ve given to them, with them. They’re taking your mental health, emotional health, spiritual, and in a lot of cases physical health with them as well, and they are leaving you malnourished and on the brink of death. This is why it’s so important to seek God first.

Get lost in God’s love first, then love yourself without having to be attached to another person, and learn become whole. The wrong spirits know who to prey on. If you don’t know who you are, you will try to find your identity in a relationship or other people. If you don’t love yourself, you will also look for the love you should be giving yourself within a relationship, or again, other people. Those ungodly spirits will trick you into believing a person is your savior and they will use the wrong person to try to kill, steal, and destroy your life.

Your happiness and self love should never be tied to a person/people. Not your spouse, not your child, not your parents, friend, mentor, pastor or whomever. People aren’t perfect and not everyone has good intentions. Some people have ulterior motives. The wrong people will tell you what you want to hear, and they will manipulate you and prey on your weaknesses if you’re lead by your feelings.

Your identity isn’t found in people, it’s found in Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith. God has to be your focus, not your feelings. For more insight, get your copy of my new book “How to let go and let God” by clicking the link below. ⤵️⤵️⤵️

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Chapter 4

Shante’s got a man at home

After two weeks of playing phone tag and Shante standing Travis up twice, it was finally time for their date. Although it was a stressful time for Shante, she really wanted to get to know more about Travis and he had been patient, understanding and consistent in his efforts to get to know more about Shante. “Ding, dong,” the door bell ring. Shante quickly finished the entree’s off with colorful sauces and herb sprigs. She took off her apron and placed it in one of her kitchen drawers and ran to the door. 

She then checked her hair, makeup and outfit in the mirror before looking through the peephole and calmly opening the door. “Travis, hi. Welcome. Let me take your jacket,” she said. “Well, thank you, and hello to you too. You look amazing, and it smells amazing in here,” Travis said. 

“Well, you know, I may have whipped up a little something, something. I forgot to ask you over the phone, but do you have any food allergies,” Shante said. “Nope, no food allergies,” Travis said. “Oh, I brought a bottle of wine,” Travis said, handing Shante her favorite vintage Cabernet. “Wow, how did you know that this is one of my favorites?” she said.

“I pay attention,” Travis said. “Good, it will go perfectly with dinner,” Shante said. “Oh, yeah? What’s on the menu?” Travis said, as he followed Shante to the dining room. “Have a seat,” she said, motioning her hand for Travis to sit down. 

“After you,” he said, pulling out her chair for her to sit first. “Aww, thank you,” she said. The table was beautifully set with orange and cream hydrangeas with heather branches, mini natural birch pine cones and mini boo and orange pumpkins. “Wow, everything looks amazing. You’ve redecorated since the last time that I was here,” Travis said. 

“Wow, you do pay attention. I switched up a few things, here and there for the fall. I actually change a few things with every season to try to make my home feel more homey and festive. I guess it’s the interior decorator in me,” Shante said. “That’s right you decorate a lot of celebrity homes, right?” Travis said. 

“I do. Anyway tonight we’re having braised duck with orange, balsamic and berry glaze, sautéed Swiss chard with parmesan and rosemary fondant potatoes,” she said. “Wow, this is fancy. I don’t know what any of that means but it looks and smells delicious,” Travis said, before he and Shante shared a laugh. “Is it okay, if we say grace together before we eat?” Travis asked. 

“Of course,” Shante said. Travis grabbed her hand and began to pray. “Lord, thank you for this food that we are about to receive. Let it be for the nourishment of our bodies and bless the cook. In Jesus name. Amen.”

“Amen,” Shante said, with a smile. Travis smiled back, with a soft gaze. “What?” Shante asked, as she picked up her fork. “Your smile. I told you, it’s unforgettable. 

It’s like sunshine on a cloudy day,” Travis said. “Shante continued to smile and with a slight giggle she said, “Okay, Temptations.” Travis laughed, “I’m serious.” “I’m happy that despite everything you’re going through, you continue to smile,” he said. “Yeah, well I learned a long time ago, not to allow things around you to get inside of you.

If God gave it to me, I refuse to let the world take it away,” Shante said. “Amen to that,” Travis said. Travis grabbed his fork and began to eat a piece of braised duck breast. “Um. Woman. 

This. Is. The. BOMB. Oh, my goodness, wait, I need another bite. He took another bite and then he began to taste the greens and potatoes. Um, umm, umm! Wow. 

Who taught you how to cook?” Travis said. “My dad, actually. He’s a chef. “Kudos to your pops. He taught you well,” he said. 

“Thank you. I appreciate that. Wine?” Shante said, before getting the corkscrew out of the drawer. “Sure, but just a little,” Travis said. “Gotcha. 

I know you have a thirty minute drive home. So, Travis; tell me more about yourself. While Shante poured the two of them up a glass of wine inside, something else was brewing outside. Corey pulled up to Shante’s house in his 2020 Camaro, bumping trap music. Shante’s nosey neighbor was looking out of her window. 

When she seen Corey, she adjusted her boobs in her bra and rushed out to greet him. Corey got out of his car with a bouquet of roses. “Hey, Corey,” Brenda said, as she strut her stuff his way. “What’s up, Ms. Brenda? How you doing,” Corey said in his country grammar.

“I’m doing good, but baby I’ve told you. You don’t have to call me Ms. I’m not that old, but I can be your teacher,” she said. Corey laughed. “I hear you, Ms,” he said before Brenda cut him off. “Aht, aht,” she said. “I meant, I hear you, Brenda. Have you seen Shante? I’ve been trying to call her, but she haven’t been answering. I just want to see how she’s doing. I heard about Jessica’s old man. You know he was robbed and killed a couple of weeks ago, and now Jessica’s is in the hospital. I just want to make sure she’s okay, you know?” Corey said.

“Aht, aht, Corey. You not coming to check up on Shante. You know that she’s going through a vulnerable time and you’re trying to get back in. Listen, you fine, but you aren’t fooling anyone. You know you were wrong for running behind these little young girls who only mess with you for your money. 

Then you have the nerve to get the girl pregnant. She got you for eighteen years now,” Brenda said. “See, if you were going to mess around, you should have did it with a more mature woman, who has her own. Someone who isn’t trying to have your kids, but can make you her zaddy,” Brenda said, as she rubbed on Corey’s chest. “Okay, Ms. Brenda. 

That’s enough. It was nice seeing you,” Corey said, as he walked towards Shante’s garage. “Who raggedy Honda in Shante yard?” he turned and asked Brenda. “Whew child, you’re so ghetto, but I love it,” Brenda mumbled, then she said out loud, “Oh, that’s right, you haven’t heard. Shante’s got a man at home.” 

Hey y’all! So, here’s a new short story for those of you who like romance, romantic comedies or shows like “Girlfriends,” “Sex in the City,” or “Sistas,” by Tyler Perry. This is the beginning so be on the lookout for the following chapters. Tag your girls in this post and the chapters to follow because it’s going to be gooood! 😁🍷

Chapter 1
The Beginning

“He ain’t got the key, I just let him in sometimes,” Shante said. “Wait a minute, are we talking about the key to your heart, your vagina or your house, because I’m confused at this point,” Karen said, before all three friends shared a laugh.
Shante Brown is the bad and boujee friend from the west side of Atlanta. Karen Parker is the classy and saditty friend from Buckhead, and Jessica Smith is the… Gemini. Yeah, Jess has two sides, and she’s from Decatur. “Speaking of houses, vaginas and keys, I need to go get my key from Mark trifling behind, because he ain’t getting no more of this cat,” Jess said. Shante shook her head. Karen put her hand against her forehead and shook her head too. “Child, what did Mark do now? I thought you just gave the man a key to your house two days ago,” Karen said. “I did. But I’m tired of him already,” Jess said. “But what did he do?” Shante asked. “Nothing, I just need my space,” Jess said.

Now you see what I’m saying about those two sides…

“Whew chile, the ghetto,” Karen said. Shante laughed. “Oh, I might be ghetto but guess what? So, is my brother who you married two years ago. So don’t be talking about ghetto. You know you like that ghetto love,” Jess said, as she began to roll her hips back and forth in a dance. They all laughed. “And Shante, I know you weren’t laughing, Ms. I made it out the hood but I couldn’t leave behind the wood,” Jess said. “Ouu, that’s a fire hook. I might make that into a rap,” Jess said. Shante was taking a sip of her Cabernet and spit it out from laughter. “Girl, you’ve made me mess up my carpet, dang! But you know what, you’re right. That hood wood, is some good good,” Shante said. “Aaye! That hood wood is some good good. That hood wood is some good wood,” Jess began to say in a rap. “You ain’t never lied,” Jess said as she gave Shante a high five. “Y’all crazy. Listen, I have a two o’clock appointment that I’m about to miss fooling around with y’all. And Shante, isn’t it a little early for wine? It’s just 1:30,” Karen said. “Well hell, it’s five o’clock somewhere. Listen, go on to your appointment before you’re late,” Shante said. “Yes, and tell my brother to call me. He’s gotten into politics and he act like he don’t know where he came from. I’m still his sister. Tell him he can call me sometimes, and tell him I need to hold about ten grand,” Jess said. “You see, that’s why he don’t call you,” Shante said, as she walked Karen to the door. Karen laughed. “I’ll be sure to tell him. He’s meeting me at the doctor’s office,” Karen said. “Girl, ignore that fool,” Shante said. “Sis, know I’m just playing,” Jess said, before whispering in Karen’s ear, “Tell him if he can’t do ten, I’ll take eight.” “Bye y’all,” Karen said, as she smiled and shook her head. “Love you girl,” Shante said, closing the door behind Karen. “Love you sis,” Jess said. “Love y’all too,” Karen said.
“Girl, I better get out of here too,” Jess said. “Right, you need to get your key from Mark,” Shante said. “Exactly,” Jess said. “Muah,” Jess said, giving Shante a quick peck on both cheeks. “Love you girl,” Jess said. “Love you too. Bye,” Shante said.
“I can’t believe both of them just left me like that. And look at my carpet. Now I need to hire someone to come out here and get this stain out of my carpet,” Shante said. She began to look online with her phone, for carpet cleaning companies. She found one rated five stars. She called them up and a guy from the company said that he could get someone to come out the same day. Shante was relieved.
A couple of hours later, a guy from the carpet cleaning service came. He was fine. Tall, chocolate, white teeth, strong arms, big feet… Shante was in a trance when she opened the door. “Umm, can I come in?” The guy said. “Oh, yeah. Sorry. Sure. I’m Shante.” “I’m Travis, with Professional Carpet Cleaning. Can you show me your problem area?” Shante closed the door. “Of course,” she said, as she lead him to the living room. “Oh, yeah. I can get that out for you with no problem. I’m going to go out to my van right quick and get my equipment. I’ll be right back,” Travis said. “Okay,” Shante said. While Travis was outside, Shante called Jess. “Hello,” Jess said. “Girl, what are you doing?” Shante said. “Mark,” Jess said. “What?” Shante asked. “I asked you, what are you doing?” Shante said. “And, I said Mark,” Jess said. “Bend over,” Mark said in the background. “What the hell,” Shante said. “Girl, I gotta call you back,” Jess said, with a moan. Shante ended the call. “They so nasty, and Jess so bipolar. I thought she was going to get her key,” Shante said. Travis came towards the door with his equipment. Shante opened the door for him. “This shouldn’t take too long. Are there any other areas of your home that needs servicing?” Nice home, by the way,” Travis said. “Thank you,” Shante said. There weren’t any other areas in her home that needed cleaning, but she got her bedroom carpet cleaned as well, just so she could look at Travis a little longer. He was done in an hour. “Would you like some water, sports drink, tea, soda?” she asked. Travis laughed, “Water will be fine,” he said. “Okay,” I’ll be right back. Travis began to get his equipment together. Shante brought the water back, and Travis drank it in less than a minute. “Thank you,” he said. People aren’t as generous as you,” but I appreciate it,” he said. Shante smiled, “No problem.” “You have a beautiful smile,” he said. “You’ve been smiling since I’ve been here. Do you just smile, all the time?” he asked. “Only when I like what I see,” Shante said. Travis smiled. “Same,” he said, with a smile. “So, are you single?” he said. “I am,” Shante said. She was finally done with her ex. “Well, can I take you out sometime?” “Let me check my schedule,” Shante said, pretending to go through her phone. “Oh, really?” Travis said. “I’m just playing,” she said. “Let me put my number in your phone,” she said. “I already have it,” Travis said. “You know, from when you called the office earlier. That was me who answered the phone. My partner couldn’t make it out here in time, so I came instead. We run the company together,” he said. “Oh, wow. Well I’m glad you came,” Shante said, with a smile. “There’s that smile again. Unforgettable,” he said. “What’s unforgettable?” Shante asked. “Your smile. You,” he said.

Shift your focus.

Some of us have been in toxic situations so long that we think it’s normal. We learn to cope with it because we believe things won’t get better for us. We pray, we cry, we fight, we quote scripture, we even walk away sometimes, but when things get rough we go right back. We go right back to that toxicity, because it’s a part of us! No matter how much you pray, cry and quote scripture, that unhealthy attachment to whatever it is, WILL NOT go away until you release it mentally.

If you don’t believe me, read Exodus. The children of Israel had been crying out for God to deliver them out of slavery. When He did, their physical address may have changed, but mentally they were still slaves. When they began to go through some things, they wanted to go back to that trauma! Why? Because it was comfortable, meaning that they knew what to expect.

We do the same things in relationships or other areas of our lives. We are afraid to start over with a new person because of the risk of going through what we went through with an ex, so what do we do? We go back or stay with that toxic person because we know them and in our minds it’s easy to deal with something or someone when you know what you’re getting, than it is to start something and be unsure of what you’re getting yourself into.
Want to know the thing that’s holding you back? Fear… When it boils down to it, fear is the root of your problem. You fear uncertainty. You fear being alone. You fear being hurt. You fear rejection. You fear that you can’t do better. You have to release fear, in order to gain your freedom and power.

We must learn to be uncomfortable sometimes. We can’t be afraid of being hurt. We can’t be afraid of falling. Just because you fall, doesn’t mean you have failed. The Bible says, “Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that’s the end of them.” – Proverbs 24:6 (CEV)

Keep getting up. It’s like a baby learning to walk. They stumble and fall. They cry and reach for their parents to help them, but you want to know what else they do, they focus. If a baby can focus on doing what it takes to get from point A to point B, guess what? So can you! It’s time to stop crawling in sin, in dead end relationships, in dead end jobs, in unhealthy connections, in toxic environments, in fear and struggle; and it’s time to walk in the freedom and power of the Holy Spirit! It’s time to walk in purpose! It’s time to walk in love and not our feelings! It’s time to truly walk by faith and not by sight. Shift your focus back to what truly matters, because the distractions doesn’t matter. They are designed to keep you from reaching your destiny, but God!

God is right here, like a parent who’s teaching their baby to walk. He is encouraging you, smiling down on you, loving you and is there to catch you when you fall. Don’t be afraid to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back. You were created for so much more! Press towards the mark! Stand up and walk. Focus on God and let faith be your guide. Tell fear, “You no longer have a room here, in Jesus name.” Amen. 🙏🏾

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