Shift your focus.
Some of us have been in toxic situations so long that we think it’s normal. We learn to cope with it because we believe things won’t get better for us. We pray, we cry, we fight, we quote scripture, we even walk away sometimes, but when things get rough we go right back. We go right back to that toxicity, because it’s a part of us! No matter how much you pray, cry and quote scripture, that unhealthy attachment to whatever it is, WILL NOT go away until you release it mentally.
If you don’t believe me, read Exodus. The children of Israel had been crying out for God to deliver them out of slavery. When He did, their physical address may have changed, but mentally they were still slaves. When they began to go through some things, they wanted to go back to that trauma! Why? Because it was comfortable, meaning that they knew what to expect.
We do the same things in relationships or other areas of our lives. We are afraid to start over with a new person because of the risk of going through what we went through with an ex, so what do we do? We go back or stay with that toxic person because we know them and in our minds it’s easy to deal with something or someone when you know what you’re getting, than it is to start something and be unsure of what you’re getting yourself into.
Want to know the thing that’s holding you back? Fear… When it boils down to it, fear is the root of your problem. You fear uncertainty. You fear being alone. You fear being hurt. You fear rejection. You fear that you can’t do better. You have to release fear, in order to gain your freedom and power.
We must learn to be uncomfortable sometimes. We can’t be afraid of being hurt. We can’t be afraid of falling. Just because you fall, doesn’t mean you have failed. The Bible says, “Even if good people fall seven times, they will get back up. But when trouble strikes the wicked, that’s the end of them.” – Proverbs 24:6 (CEV)
Keep getting up. It’s like a baby learning to walk. They stumble and fall. They cry and reach for their parents to help them, but you want to know what else they do, they focus. If a baby can focus on doing what it takes to get from point A to point B, guess what? So can you! It’s time to stop crawling in sin, in dead end relationships, in dead end jobs, in unhealthy connections, in toxic environments, in fear and struggle; and it’s time to walk in the freedom and power of the Holy Spirit! It’s time to walk in purpose! It’s time to walk in love and not our feelings! It’s time to truly walk by faith and not by sight. Shift your focus back to what truly matters, because the distractions doesn’t matter. They are designed to keep you from reaching your destiny, but God!
God is right here, like a parent who’s teaching their baby to walk. He is encouraging you, smiling down on you, loving you and is there to catch you when you fall. Don’t be afraid to let go of whatever it is that’s holding you back. You were created for so much more! Press towards the mark! Stand up and walk. Focus on God and let faith be your guide. Tell fear, “You no longer have a room here, in Jesus name.” Amen. 🙏🏾
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