MaRriAgE iS jUsT a piEcE oF pApeR: A piece of paper worth fighting for.

I’m so tired of some people saying, “MaRriAgE iS jUsT a piEcE oF pApeR,” as a means to excuse a dead end relationship. They say, “marriage doesn’t keep a person faithful,” well guess what? Neither does staying in a relationship with someone for years, decades, or your entire life, who hasn’t made a commitment to you. Your relationship should have goals. You shouldn’t want to be someone’s girlfriend, boyfriend, baby daddy or baby momma all of your life. You should want to be their husband or wife, especially before starting a family with that person. I know that none of us are perfect, and have done things backwards, but you apply wisdom when you learn from, and learn not to repeat your previous mistakes. The truth of the matter is, many people who are in relationships but choose not to marry the person that they’re with, aren’t one hundred percent sure of either themselves or the person that they’re with. They remain single because it’s way more comfortable and easy to wiggle themselves out of. If you have a negative perspective about marriage, then you are right not to get married, because going into marriage with a negative mindset will get the marriage off to a bad start and it will end in disaster. For those who believe that you don’t need to be married in order to have a loving life long relationship with someone, my question is: If you’re serious about the person you’re with, then why not? If you plan on being with them for your entire life, why not make it official? Why wouldn’t you want to build a legacy for your future generations? Why not come before God and the world and declare your love and faithfulness to that individual? Why not set the right example for your children? Why not honor the person you love by honoring God, and doing things the right way? Marriage means you’re a team, you’re one with the person you’ve chosen to be with. If you think of marriage as being the same as when you’re single, then you’re going into it with the wrong perspective. You should be on one accord; body, mind and soul. Mark 10:7-8, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.” That mindset of being one has to be there long before the wedding bells though, or else it won’t make sense to get married. A single mindset in a committed relationship will have you thinking that if you get married, you’re losing, when it’s actually a gain. Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.” Oftentimes, we forget that marriage comes with God’s favor. When we honor God, He honors us! (see 1 Samuel 2:30) Marriage is most definitely necessary, to people who are serious about God, love, commitment, family, and their legacy. People who aren’t afraid to declare and proclaim to God and the world that their significant other is their only one. People who doesn’t make idle promises. People who aren’t just in it for a good time, but a long time. It’s only a piece of paper to people who feel like they have too much to lose, again, that’s operating from a “single” or selfish mindset, which in that case, those individuals are right not to get married. For the rest of us, marriage is a piece of paper worth fighting for!

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