Signs 🚩🚩🚩that you are being manipulated and how to regain control.

There’s nothing good about manipulation, however, a good manipulator does it so well, that you won’t know that you’re being manipulated. Manipulation is rooted in deceit, and we all know that deception is of the enemy. John 8:44, “You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”
First of all, manipulation is a form of control. In order for someone to gain control over you, you must give them that power. How do you give them that power? By giving them your complete trust. Be very careful about who you put your trust in. 1 John 4:1(a) “My dear brothers, do not trust every spirit. But test the spirits to see if they belong to God.” Do not look to people as if they are God. Trust people to an extent, but never to the point where you believe that they will never disappoint you. They are people, imperfect, just like you and me. They make mistakes, they have issues, they fall short just as we all do. So, putting any person up on a pedestal as far as believing that they can do no wrong, is a bad idea. You’re misplacing your trust.
Manipulators prey on your weaknesses, so be very careful about who you go to, when you are going through, and be careful about who you tell your business to in general. Some people don’t care, they’re out for themselves, and only want to know how they can use your weaknesses against you. Sounds like the enemy, doesn’t it? It is! Sadly, he’s the face behind those closest to us. Not everyone, but those we love and trust, that has hurt us the most. You see, when he can’t use you, he uses the people closest to you to get to you. The people closest to us, are people that we what? People that we trust. You’re not allowing someone you don’t trust to come around you and your family, to have access to your heart or your money, and you’re definitely not telling someone you don’t trust your secrets or personal business.
Recognizing a manipulator can be tricky, because the enemy is the father of deceit, but again, as 1 John 4:1 says, “Test the spirits to see if they belong to God.”
So, how to know if you’re being manipulated, and what to do about it? Let’s talk about it.
Manipulators will have you believe that their suggestions are really your ideas or desires, and that will cause you to disregard or be afraid to speak your mind and or do what’s right. You’ll be confused a lot, and confusion is not of God. 1 Corinthians 14:33, “For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” It’s like when a thought pops into your head. You have the ability through Jesus to either accept that thought as your own or cast it out. Just because it pops into your head, doesn’t mean you have to take ownership of it. The enemy will have you think that the thoughts he puts into your head are your thoughts, because he plays on your emotions, just like a manipulator! He is a liar, and so are the people he uses to manipulate you! Combat this form of manipulation by staying out of your feelings. Be of sound mind, and do not be afraid to speak your mind. Be sure of yourself and make sure that you’re operating out of God’s will and not your feelings. Don’t feel like you must do what others want you to do, in order to keep the peace. That’s not keeping the peace. You’re tormenting yourself trying to make them happy. Don’t allow fear of losing or disappointing this person or people to cause you to do things that doesn’t bring you peace. 1 Corinthians 7:15, “But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.” Don’t be afraid to lose the wrong people! The people who are for you aren’t going anywhere. Those who are sent by God, are there for the long haul.
Manipulators will make you believe that they only have your best interest at heart. They will make you think that they’re just trying to help or want what’s best for you. They’ll pretend to be concerned, so that you keep them in the loop about your business. So, be aware of these people. They’re not just nosey, but they have an agenda. They may not say that they are there if you need anything, but they will make you so comfortable with them that you believe it. They’re mostly there when you’re going through, but you’ll notice a change in their behavior once you’re doing great. They’ll say things like, “You’ve changed, or you’re acting brand new,” but what they’re really saying is, “I’m losing control over you, and I need it back.” So, they try to guilt you into doing what they want. These type of manipulators are people who loves to build you up, just to break you down. Unfortunately, oftentimes you won’t realize it until it’s too late. Combat this by seeking God first, and guarding your heart. Proverbs 4:23, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” This doesn’t mean put up walls so no one gets in. This means protect your thoughts. Every action begins as with a thought. Proverbs 23:7(a), “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” Don’t allow your emotions to play you, and don’t allow them to cause people to prey on you. Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.”
Manipulators will try to destroy any other relationship you have outside of them, until they’re your main focus. They may appear to be standing up to people on your behalf, so that you feel safe with them, but really they are causing friction between you and people who genuinely loves you, and they are telling you subconsciously, that you can’t function independently… you need them. What these manipulators are really doing is trying to isolate you from others who are close to you, so that you feel like you have no one except them. You must really be aware and back away from anyone who makes you feel as though you only have or need their support, love or understanding. This simply isn’t true. You have God! We need God! People only have but so much power. We must trust God in all things. He’s promised to never leave us! Deuteronomy 31:6, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” Don’t ever believe the lie that a certain person or even people is all you have because if they walk away, you will fall apart, and do whatever they want to get them back or be a part of their lives again. This isn’t love. Don’t allow any person or people to have that type of power over you. Combat this form of manipulation by staying on one accord with the Spirit of God. Keep His Word in your heart and His thoughts on your mind. Keep strong healthy connections with individuals who you know are for you. Don’t isolate yourself from people who have been there for you and who’ve proven to love and be loyal to you. The right person or people for you won’t get jealous or feel threatened by your other friends or loved ones.
Anyway, these are just a few things I’ve noticed and wanted to share with you. I hope this helps you if you’re currently going through. Prayerfully, you can use these tools to help you pull away from the manipulator’s grasp. It’s not easy, because again, these are people you love and trust, but just because you love someone, that does not give them a pass to deceive or to hurt you!
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