Falling in love is easy, staying in love takes teamwork.

Appreciate what you have when it comes to love. I’m talking about real love. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Compliment each other’s character. If you feel like there’s 75% of great things you love about your spouse, but 25% you can do without; don’t go out looking for someone to fulfill that 25%. You should be that 25% to their 75%. 🤷🏾‍♀️Listen, I’m just being honest. None of us are perfect, but choosing to stay in love takes team work. You shouldn’t jump ship because the person you love isn’t perfect. Hello! You aren’t perfect either! Truth be told, they could probably do without 75% of your crap, but they stay, and that’s where their 75% of the things you love about them kicks in! You see, real love fits. Real love is two imperfect people who are perfect for each other. Every day isn’t always going to be happy or paradise, but happiness is a feeling, and feelings as we all know, can quickly change, but love doesn’t, it just is… Love is constant even when it hurts to love. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love takes work… teamwork! You see, you can get over being temporarily unhappy, but you can’t get over loving somebody… not when it’s real. Which is why if you love them and they love you, work at staying in love. It doesn’t make sense how many people love each other, but have allowed pride, grudges, anger and all sorts of ungodliness to come between something that could be so beautiful. The love is already forever, so why not stay together? Especially when you’re certain that it’s love. I’m not talking about lust, infatuation, situations, or whatever that’s not love. I’m talking about the real deal. Don’t mess up a good thing by looking for the next best thing. Be a better you within the relationship, and another thing appreciate love. Don’t take it for granted. Again, staying in love is a team effort. So, if you’re not putting in the effort, eventually you will push that person away. That person may always love you, but they can’t be in love by themselves… it takes two. The two of you must be selfless, attentive, compassionate, understanding and forgiving; you must communicate, be committed but most importantly love each other. This isn’t only inclusive to spousal relationships, but in any relationship, because God has called us to love Him and to love each other (see Matthew 22:37-40). Love is what life is all about. The best way to love others is to get over ourselves. ❤️

1 Corinthians 13 New International Version (NIV)

13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

2 Comments

  1. I have come to think that teamwork (including marriage) is never 50-50. It must be 70-70 or 80-80. What does this mean? It means that everyone will inevitably know more about the work they put into a relationship than they will about what their partner does. You might especially enjoy this attempt to catalog some ‘best practices’ in collaboration and teamwork into the form of a Pattern Language (free, no ads). Here’s an index — https://petersironwood.com/2018/06/29/pattern-language-summary

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