We’re human, we make mistakes. There’s some things you may have done in your past that you’re not proud of and may even regret, but living in guilt or not forgiving yourself for making a bad move, is not the move. If our perfect God can forgive our imperfections, why can’t we? Oftentimes forgiving ourselves is harder than forgiving everyone else.
I believe it’s hard for us to forgive ourselves for our shortcomings because we feel like we put ourselves at a disadvantage or our decisions put us in a situation that seems hopeless, but that’s not the truth, because our God is a God of grace. Even when we think we’ve messed things up, God will cause it to work for our good, and instead of us living a life of despair, we can live a life of victory, because we are overcomers through Jesus!
If you’re having a hard time forgiving yourself. Remember that when you repent, God sees you as if you never made a mistake, thanks to the blood of Jesus! So, if our great God doesn’t hold our sins against us when we repent, why are you still holding them against yourself? Romans 8:1-2, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.”
It doesn’t matter what you’ve done. If God forgave you, forgive yourself. Stop saying, “Well, this is my Karma.” No, you don’t have to live in defeat the rest of your life, it doesn’t matter what situation you’re in, do not live with a defeated mindset. God wants to use you for His glory, and He can’t use you if your mind tells you that you’re guilty or undeserving of His love or even people’s love, including yourself! Love yourself enough to say, “Hey, I messed up, but I’ve learned my lesson. I forgive myself, and I’m going to do better by God, myself and other people. One more thing, don’t allow someone to treat you badly because of your past. If you’ve apologized (sincerely), allowed God to change you, and is making an honest effort to move forward and be a better person, don’t allow someone else’s bitterness, judgment or hatred towards you to cause you to live a life where you’re constantly being abused mentally, emotionally or physically to pay for your past transgressions towards them. They have a right to hurt, but they don’t have a right to make you pay for hurting them for the rest of their life, and you have the right to remove yourself from any toxic situation or relationship where a person makes you feel like in order to deserve their love or respect, they should be allowed to misuse yours. That’s a lie and it’s also ridiculous and toxic, and it’s most certainly not real love. As a believer, we need to mimic our Father and give mercy where it’s not deserved. That’s the only way we can walk in the freedom of our Salvation.
Hebrews 12:1-3 New International Version (NIV)
12 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, 2 fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 3 Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.
Today, I challenge anyone who has been having trouble forgiving themselves or other people to throw off everything that is hindering you in Christ! Throw off unforgiveness, guilt, shame, vengeance, envy, regret, anger, bitterness, pride, self righteousness, selfishness, ungratefulness, negativity, finger pointing, fear, depression and anything else that’s coming against your salvation. Forgive, declare your freedom and walk victoriously, in Jesus name. ❤️🙌🏾