Don’t be anxious, be prayerful when dating.

Don’t be so quick to jump into a relationship because you’re tired of being alone, or you’re bored or horny… 😒 Listen, the sad reality is, people are too anxious to have somebody, when they haven’t even discovered themselves. We have to really put our feelings to the side folks, and think about what’s driving our desires. Philippians 4:6-7 says, “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”Loneliness will run you into the arms of someone who’s not good for you, but they’re good for right now. It’s like when you’re hungry and your body needs nourishment, but instead of you having a healthy balanced meal that will benefit you, you grab a candy bar, chips and a soda… why? Because it’s quick, convenient and gets the job done for now… however, they’re full of empty calories. Those things taste good, but they aren’t helping you, in fact, they could be hindering or in the long run causing you even more problems. The same thing happens in relationships. A lack of patience or chaotic emotions, will have a person all over the place. In this relationship, out that relationship and back in another one, just so they can escape their real issues… those deeper issues that they haven’t took time to understand or confront. The wrong relationship can jeopardize your purpose, and keep you from your calling. At first it may seem like paradise, but things can get real quickly, and the next thing you know, you’ve spent the last five, ten years with someone you’re miserable with, all because they were good for right now. If you’re not of sound mind, Mr. or Mrs. Right now, will be your Right Now for a very long time, without you ever intending on them to be. They will become someone you settled for, or someone that happened to be at the right place during the right time, and you won’t even realize, they could’ve been anybody, because you just wanted somebody. Let’s be more intentional with who we settle down with. Instead of settling for someone who is keeping us from living a life of purpose, because we’ve spent a decade trying to raise them (yes I said, raise them), as if they’re our child, when it’s not your job to raise a grown man or woman. The sad reality is, too many people aren’t looking for a husband or wife, they’re looking for a mom or dad… They don’t want to grow, they want to be coddled, and that’s a problem. When getting into a relationship, do a thorough inspection of the person as if you’re buying a house or car. You wouldn’t want a car without a car fax or without test driving it, and you wouldn’t want a house without checking out the inside… never mind how cute it is on the outside, you want to know if it will work according to your needs and that it doesn’t have any leaks or holes that invites outsiders in… 👀 I hope y’all caught that! Choosing your spouse goes deeper than what you feel about them. The main question to ask is, do we fit into each other’s purpose? That is the million dollar question, because that’s going to determine the fate of your relationship or marriage. Be with someone who’s receptive to what they’re receiving from you,

spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. You don’t want someone who only appreciates a part of you and could care less about you as a whole. Don’t be so quick to give yourself away to people, make sure that whoever you’re investing yourself into, is worth the investment… which means you should be getting a return. Know your worth. Matthew 7:6, “Do not give what is holy to dogs, and do not throw your pearls before swine, or they will trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”

One Comment Add yours

  1. Pete says:

    Song of Solomon 8:4
    I adjure you, daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up, nor awaken love, until its due time.


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