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Lord the mercy! 🤦🏾♀️ Look, y’all know one of my flaws is cussing. I tried really hard to think of something else to say, but when it comes to situationships that 👆🏾 is the unadulterated truth! So for those of you who don’t know, a situationship is essentially a relationship that hasn’t been defined. However… assumptions based on certain conversations, time spent and several other contributing factors, causes one of the people within the situationship to catch exclusive relationship feelings. Confused much? 🤔 Yeah, so are the people in these situations! Basically you do monogamous “things” without officially making a commitment… and that’s not the kicker! Lol The kicker is, even though there hasn’t been a discussion of being in a committed relationship with this person, you still expect them to commit to you… even if you’re not committed to them. 🥴 It’s a situation where they don’t want you (beyond their need of you), but they don’t want anyone else to have you either. They’re cool with having a part of you than all of you. You know what this makes me think of? There’s an old saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” Listen y’all, stop giving people so much of yourself and expecting them to return the favor, and I’m not just talking about sex. Some people are out here in situationships spending their hard earned money on folks who wouldn’t give them a dime. Some people are spending time with people and they know doggone well, that they’re wasting time and the situation isn’t going anywhere… All I’m saying is set clear goals beforehand. Let a person know up front what your goals are when it comes to dating, and protect your valuables! Some people will tell you what you want to hear just to get you to hand your valuables over. Pay attention to their efforts. Are they consistent? Do they back their words with actions? Are they investing just as much as you are into the relationship? Listen, give it time. Don’t rush, and don’t stay in a relationship where you’re assuming all the time. It should be crystal clear who you are to this individual and who they are to you. If it’s not crystal clear, get an understanding. Again, don’t just fall for words, make sure that it’s backed with the right actions. If not, you’ll spend your life settling for less than what you deserve and you’ll compromise your self worth just to have somebody that you can’t fully claim. Who wants that? Especially if you’ve invested time with the person. Don’t be a person who’s in a relationship with someone who’s single. 🤷🏾♀️ It happens. Know what you’re doing and know what you’re getting yourself into. Some things just aren’t worth it. Wasted time is far worse than wasted money. Be wise about who you give your time to. A relationship should be an investment… not a robbery. Don’t allow someone to walk away with your goodies and leave you stuck with the butt end of the deal.
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