Single people carry a certain stench. Oh, you didn’t know? You better ask somebody. Or start to pay attention to the facial expressions of your married family members or friends when you come around. I’ve noticed an elephant in the room… and it’s time to air it out. There’s this stigma mostly adopted by older generations, that if you don’t have a husband or a wife by a certain age, or at a certain point in your life, that something is wrong with you. This way of thinking is dangerous and not Biblical at all. It’s unwise, and unfortunately, this was the mindset of prior generations who taught it to our grandparents, who passed it down to our parents who’ve passed this way of thinking down to the present generation but it’s a new day, and although we respect our elders, some of us have woke up and began to think for ourselves. Forced marriages aren’t built on a solid foundation, and although our ancestors made it work, the women also had to deal (well chose to deal with) the other women who had children by their husbands. Basically wives back then lived life knowing “Papa was a rolling stone” but they stayed because their identity was tied to that man. These days we call this type of relationship or marriage for that matter, a codependent or toxic relationship. God made you an individual. Who you are should never be defined by your marital status. It doesn’t matter if you’re eighteen or eighty. If you are at peace and happy without a spouse, then kudos to you! The Word of God says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).” It doesn’t say, I can do all things if I have a husband or a wife. When God created Adam, yes He said, it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone, and so God made Eve to be Adam’s wife aka his help meet. Adam and Eve fitted into each other’s purpose. The problem is today, so many people want to rush into these relationships so that they will be “seen” as somebody, and they don’t care if the person fits into their purpose or not, which is why there’s so many failed relationships and divorces today. People are simply unequally yoked! If you’re single, don’t rush into something that you’re not ready for, just because you’re tired of your other married family members giving you the side eye, or your momma asking, when are you going to have her some grand babies? Marriage isn’t for everyone, but don’t take my word for it. Matthew 19:11 (MSG), But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone.”
Stop frowning upon single people and dissecting their whole life, trying to figure out why they’re alone. Perhaps they’re alone because they’re working on their God given assignment, or they’re healing from a previous relationship, or they’re working on becoming financially stable before they begin a family. There could be numerous reasons why. Listen, not everyone who’s married, is happily married, and not everyone that’s single, miserable, and vice versa. Being single doesn’t stink. What stinks is people 💩 on you for being single. As long as you’re doing the will of God, and you are at peace when it comes to your relationship status, do what makes YOU happy… not your momma, not your friends, and definitely not society.