People can fool other people but they can’t fool God! If you’re unsure about a certain person, seek God! Put aside your feelings or anything that could cloud your vision or stand in the way of you hearing from Him! When in doubt, always go with what God said, over how you feel. Feelings change, but the Word of God stays the same.
His Word says, “No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” -Psalm 84:11. It also says in James 1:5, “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” So ask God what are His thoughts when you need help discerning the spirit of people! Some people are really good pretenders and they can fool you, especially if you’re thinking with your heart and not using your mind! I think that your heart and mind should be on the same page.
If there’s conflict between the two then confusion is in the midst and we all know that confusion is not of God. When God speaks, there’s no contradiction in what He has to say. He makes things crystal clear. A lot of times we as people take what He has said and try to make it fit into our own thoughts, or what we think makes sense, but that’s not following His Word. We have to stop picking and choosing what part of God’s Word that we want to obey and what part we choose to excuse.
It’s hard to discern spirits if you’re straddling the fence! This is why it’s so important to get in sync with the Holy Spirit, so that you are less likely to be bamboozled, whether it’s within a dating relationship or even a pastor! People are people, and don’t let titles trick you into believing that just because someone holds a certain position, social status or accomplishment, that the person is free of sin. Romans 3:23, “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. Use the wisdom of the Holy Spirit when you’re unsure of someone.
Getting our hearts broken or going through certain trials in life are inevitable, but seeking God first and including Him in your plans will keep you from being led astray by your own feelings or lack of judgment. Proverbs 16:3, “Share your plans with the LORD, and you will succeed.”