No one likes to be used. Especially, if they’re aware of it. Two of the very first reactions a person feels when their love or kindness is being misused, is hurt and anger. Those two feelings can cause that person to shut down and shut people out or seek revenge. Matthew 5:39, “But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.”
Listen, Jesus isn’t telling you to go around letting people beat you up, or even use you! This scripture is more about not taking revenge on a person who has used you, or is using you. Hurt and anger can cloud your judgement and cause you to react outside of the will of God. God wants us to be more like Him! Think about how imperfect we are, but we still expect God to bless us regardless, and He does!
Not because of who we are, but because of who He is! He wants us to be the same way! Be good to others, not because they deserve it, but because God allowed you to be a blessing in that person’s life. Another scripture that’s important to remember here is, Luke 6:35 (CSB), “But love your enemies, do what is good, and lend, expecting nothing in return. Then your reward will be great, and you will be children of the Most High.
For he is gracious to the ungrateful and evil.” If you are only doing good to receive goodness from others, then you have the wrong motives, and your goodness isn’t coming from a genuine place, it’s coming from a selfish place. God wants us to be unbothered by other people’s actions towards us, because that’s what true character is! If what people do to you, sways you, then you will be in and out of character your whole life. God wants us to be secure in Him, so that we are stable at all times.
Be kind, give to the undeserving and love without limits. Don’t be foolish, and believe that because you’re good to everyone, everyone will be good to you in return. That’s naive. Be good to others, and use godly discernment so that you know who you’re dealing with. Don’t go around with a sign on your back that says, “Use me!”
This is not what Jesus is talking about. He wants us to follow His example and be good to others regardless of their motives towards us, and He wants us to leave vengeance to Him! Deuteronomy 32:35 (b), “It is mine to avenge; I will repay.” Being good to others without placing an expectation on them, is both wise and mature. It’s not about us and our feelings, it’s about Jesus, and benevolently sharing the gift that God has put inside of each and every one of us! ❤️