Oftentimes we think that letting go is more painful than holding on, but that’s not always the case. The thing about letting go and holding on, is to know when to let go and when to hold on. So, how does one know whether to leave or stay? Well, as far as letting go, there’s two signs. The first sign that it’s time to let go is when you have no peace with the situation you’re in, whether it’s a job, living arrangement or relationship etc…
If you’ve done all you can on your end to keep the situation peaceful, but you still can’t find peace… it’s time to go! If you don’t, that lack of peace turns into stress, and stress is linked to six leading causes of death! Listen, life happens! There will always be trials that you will face, so don’t run from your problems, however; if the job, relationship or situation you’re in is causing you to be depressed, frustrated, abused and misused… being in that environment is doing more harm than good and it’s time to let go!
The second sign that it’s time to let go is if there’s no common ground. If you can’t come together, it’s best not to be together. Any relationship requires teamwork. Jesus said in Mark 3:25, “If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.”This analogy can be used in any situation, not just spiritual.
There are many other signs that it’s time to let go, but for the sake of time those are the main two. 1 Corinthians 7:15 (b), “God has called us to live in peace.” So, moving on, How do you know when to hold on? You know when to hold on when both parties involved are making a genuine effort to keep things together because it’s for the best. There are no hidden agendas as to why either of you should stay, and you’re doing it by choice and not by force.
If you’re holding on in order to benefit someone else, you won’t have peace in the matter and the person you’re trying to protect will end up getting hurt, because sooner or later the truth will come out. The second sign that you should hold on is if there’s healthy communication between you and the person or parties involved in your situation. Strong healthy communication is a necessity in any relationship or situation because it keeps everyone in the loop. It’s easier to gain an understanding and work through any issue if there’s good communication. You both know what each other want and it’s easier to find common ground.
So, there it is folks! If you have no peace, say peace! If the relationship or situation you’re in is worth working through, then hold on to it! The main takeaway here is don’t allow a relationship or situation to take anything priceless away from you! Not your peace, happiness, smile, faith, self worth or anything else you bring to the table… and if you have something that’s worth fighting for, fight with all your might!