Not too many years ago, maybe five or six, I was that person who called anyone’s bluff. I spoke my mind without filtering my thoughts, and I was a very defensive individual. One of the reasons I was so reactive is because I grew up in defense mode. I spent about a third of my childhood in the projects, and I was the oldest and only girl with four younger brothers. Yeah, I had no one to protect me from bullies, so I had to learn to stand my ground in the midst of adversity at a young age.
I believe that the things I had to endure, projected a negative cast on the way that I looked at people and the world in general. Then I learned something, sometimes it’s best not to say anything at all. Being silent is okay. It doesn’t make you a coward! It makes you conscious!
Sometimes we speak things as a defense mechanism against whoever we feel is coming against us. Sometimes they aren’t even coming against us, we just don’t take the time to understand what they are saying. James 3:8 says, “But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.” If this is not the truth, I don’t know what is!
It wasn’t until I went through some things that God taught me to be humble. Not for people, but for Him! Trust me, I would have rather hit my big toe on the bed post than to humble myself,
BUT with God’s help, I did it. I had to overcome me! When we learn to overcome ourselves, we open up a door for the Holy Spirit to come in, and usher us into the very heart of God!
We begin to have a mind of Christ and no longer worry about a person’s motives, because we know that God has our back and we trust that James 4:10 is true which says, “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.” I literally had an awakening that it wasn’t about me being in my feelings all the time, and trust me I used to be a really selfish individual so it was hard for me to let those chains that I didn’t know was having a negative impact on me, go! For most of my life, I was comfortable in those chains, and guess what, I was still saved, I still loved Jesus, but this is where spiritual growth comes into effect. There comes a time in our life when we are going to have to make that uncomfortable decision and do what’s right in the eyes of God, rather than do what we feel is right or the world deems popular. It’s easy to lose control and snap on people, but how is God being glorified in that?
So now, I am intentionally kind to people who I know for sure doesn’t have the right motives towards me. I find kind things to say to them, because you know what, at some point in time, I was in some way like that person. There’s no telling what people have gone through, but you don’t have to add fuel to their fire. How about being a refreshing wave of the Holy Spirit? Trust me, you’ll have less headaches, and your peace of mind will go from zero to one hundred real fast.
The person may never say one kind word to you, but trust me, you are making a positive impact on their life. Your act of love and kindness could be what draws them closer to God. So in the past, the road less traveled for me, would definitely be the road to humbleness, but when I finally decided to set foot on that path, there was no turning back, and I am grateful for it! What would be the road less traveled for you? This road is not popular and it’s difficult, I’m not going to lie, but attainable with Christ!
The more you practice it, the easier it becomes! I challenge you to do what you can’t! You know why? Because through Christ, you can do anything! All it takes is some humbling before Him! 2 Corinthians 12:9, But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.